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my daughter is rushing

by: PNM Mom

My daughter is rushing at UF. I was in a UF sorority that you all call Top Tier.

I will be sooo upset if my sorority drops my daughter.

So, before you drop that legacy, think about it!

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#1  by: Unless   
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Unless your daughter is a good fit for the current version of your old chapter, sadly do not count on anything other than a possible freebie invite to round 2. It certainly may help, esp if you are still active as an alum, but is no sure thing.

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by: GuestAug 11, 2016 11:15:31 AM

Maybe not even the freebie invite, hope you werent a DG

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by: ^Aug 11, 2016 11:17:53 AM

"hope you werent a DG"

Impossible. She said top tier.

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by: IAug 11, 2016 12:28:01 PM

It's called legacy/tradition you have no right not to give the girl a bid if her mom was a legacy there at that specific chapter. Yea maybe she won't fit in, but you should respect your alumni and I'm sorry but legacies are a huge part of the Greek life tradition.

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by: KiAug 11, 2016 12:37:17 PM

No kidding, no need to school people. The fact is, some chapters do not care as much as others regarding legacy status. For some that are very image conscious, honoring legacies is not as high a priority. For others, legacies still hold a lot of importance. It really varies on the chapter.

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by: PanAug 11, 2016 12:38:32 PM

From pan:
Each Potential New Member is considered on an individual basis; a legacy is no more obligated to join a particular chapter than the chapter is obligated to offer a bid to her. The PNM and the chapter should be looking for compatibility, not necessarily a family connection to the group. Panhellenic has no policies regarding legacies because each chapter has its own policy, and Panhellenic has no input in individual chapter membership decisions. More specific questions regarding legacies should be directed to the individual chapters.

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by: GuestAug 11, 2016 1:21:29 PM

"You have no right to not give the girl a bid" actually yes yes we do unless someone's nationals has a rule that legacies are automatically in. How were you in a sorority and think that? Sororities change of the years and your daughter might not be a good fit. It might be very different from when you were in it. You and your daughter are entitled to nothing and it's toxic to go into rush thinking you are. It's a privilege to be given a bid to a sorority, not a right.

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by: HerFeb 28, 2019 6:54:47 AM

Yikes

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by: YupJun 26, 2020 6:20:12 PM

bump!!

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by: GogatorsJun 28, 2020 7:02:19 AM

So funny how moms are in her!!!

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#2  by: Guest   
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LOL

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by: HOPE SHE WAS NOT Aug 11, 2016 12:42:07 PM

HOPE SHE WAS NOT DDD. THEY AN'T TOP TIER BY ANY MEANS. DG IS. GO AWAY DDD

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by: KDFeb 10, 2020 5:07:37 AM

Have her rush KD

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by: Just because Feb 14, 2020 8:09:27 PM

Bump because it is hilarious

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by: Gtrgal20Feb 22, 2020 1:12:19 PM

I don't think legacies automatically get in

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#3  by: Kno   
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U r gonna want ur daughter 2 get in on her own merits somewhere. If she sticks out like a sore thumb, she will likely never b comfortable. I kno a legacy that got in2 an upper house & she didnt fit their typical mold. They hid her in the back every recruitment, and she was fully aware of it. how do u think that made her feel?

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by: LolFeb 9, 2020 8:41:08 PM

Whose mom would even post this?

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by: hoorayFeb 10, 2020 10:27:18 AM

Hopefully she gets into ADPI

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by: GtrgirrrFeb 12, 2020 8:49:27 PM

I agree, she has to learn on her own

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by: KD momFeb 13, 2020 5:28:32 AM

Just because she is a legacy doesn't mean she will fit in.

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by: BaitJun 29, 2020 12:48:13 PM

Is this 4 real?

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by: GatorJul 31, 2020 5:25:27 AM

bumping for only the fact that the ranks and "realist" and stupid homecoming pairings and dance dollars raised are a big bore.

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#4  by: umm   
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Can I just say how weird it is that you are on here on behalf of your daughter? Time to cut the cord and let her be independent.

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by: Wow...Feb 10, 2020 8:56:34 PM

You need to cut the cord, you are doing your daughter no favor interfering like this!

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by: WowFeb 14, 2020 5:21:49 AM

Is this for real?

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by: SratqueenJun 27, 2020 8:25:21 PM

does she know Sunny Mucha? If so, she is GOLDEN!!

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#5  by: TBH   
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My chapter has to give bids to legacies and trust me, if your daughter does not fit in to your chapter you do not want her there. Legacies stick out, people know who's who and they often are ostracized/have fewer friends because of it. Have her go wherever she feels most comfortable, that will be the way she has the best greek experience.

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by: DudeJun 30, 2020 5:07:58 AM

Just be yourself or have daddy write a check

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#6  by: Oooh nooo   
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The helicopter moms coming on here are the worst. Can't wait for the deluge this coming week or two.

For many chapters, there will be so many legacies coming through that even if they took a new member class full of legacies some would still be left out. Also, chapters always face these kind of threats/intimidation ("don't cut my daughter/so-and-so's niece...or else!") but the reality is there isn't much of an "or else" that the chapter will care about if the PNM is not a fit.

If you really love your daughter, you should want her to be in a chapter where she fits in and will be happy. Putting pressure on her to only want or get your "top tier" house is the meanest and worst thing you could do as a mom.

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by: MomAug 16, 2017 5:13:50 PM

You're ridiculous

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by: SmhFeb 16, 2020 6:58:39 AM

Yikes

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by: sunnyJul 1, 2020 7:53:19 PM

if she knows Sunny Mucha, she can write her a letter to get in.

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#7  by: Alum   
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Please let your daughter go her own way! She may feel undue pressure during rush and it could make things worse. You know how hard it is to get in. Oh and don't call nationals if things work out. It won't help anything.

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#8  by: Lmao   
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Wait this is a troll right? No full grown adult old enough to have a child in college would actually do this please say no. How did you even raise a kid smart enough to get into UF because you, ma'am, are clearly a moron

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by: I don't knowAug 11, 2016 1:42:18 PM

The last few years the Moms have been out in full force here during rush.

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by: MomAug 16, 2017 5:15:14 PM

And you're a little troll yourself

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#9  by: Guest   
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I hate these kind of mothers you are the worst

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#10  by: legacy   
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I am a ddd legacy. I am rushing this year. BUT I am not interested in the house here. I am not impressed ( nor is my mom) there recent behavior on this thread. Will drop them the 1st round. My mom was not A DDD. Thank Goodness.

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