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by: PNMIs it weird to show up to rush (frat) events alone? I'm a new student who knows no one and I'm pretty nervous about just showing up alone and looking awkward and out of place for this Fall's informal recruitment. I know it sounds silly, but I am more a shy (not weird) person than I am an extrovert and one to really put myself out there. Does anyone have any suggestions? Is Greek life even for me?
#1by: PNM
I hope this doesn't make me look like an oddball who stands in the corner all by myself. I am talkative and can hold a conversation, it's just that I'm not the type to walk up to people Ive never met and strike up a conversation. I hope someone here can either empathize with me and help me out and give me suggestions or straight up tell me and be 3hunna% not to bother rushing because I won't find a house.
Comment#2by: youre fine
Take a breather. A lot of guys will show up alone, and sometimes it actually benefits you instead of having your friend reflect on who you are during rush. First days will probably be more hectic then the rest at most houses. For the "top" houses first events you will have to put your self out there a bit and try to spark conversation. Most other houses and 2nd-3rd events the brothers will approach you more. But in the end if youre a cool guy no matter shy or out going you can get a bid at all of the houses. Rush is about seeing if you fit in and find common ground with other guys in the house. Check out as many houses as you can and try and take hints from guys whether they give you vibes that they like you or just seem bored talking to you. Rush is really strange and you will have to push yourself a little but in the end it will all work out and you will find a house you fit in. As well as its a great way to meet other friends who might also be rushing that you never knew. Good luck and happy man flirting!
#3by: Rush
I walked up to the first fall event alone and ended up getting a bid the third night. I was approached instantly when an active saw me walk up alone. Now that I'm in, I've found that we make an effort to find people who are strong individuals on their own and not just cool because they have cool friends. It's not bad to show up with a friend, but you're more likely to be approached by an active if you're by yourself rather than talking to a bunch of your friends who aren't even in the fraternity. No point in going to the rush event at that point.
by: PNM
Thank you for advice! That's actually kind of refreshing to hear. I will just go outside of my comfort zone to meet people and (hopefully) find a place that's best for me.
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by: PNM
Thank you for the comment. I deffinetly will try to put myself out there even more than I do usually. I've come to the conclusion that if I feel out of place or uncomfortable than Greek life isn't for me, and that's a-ok. But, once again, thank you for insightful reply.
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