if formal didn't work out for you...

If formal didn't work out for you the way you hoped, i'm sorry to hear it. I've been in your shoes before and I know it's disappointing, and even if I told you how it really wasn't anything personal or something you did, I understand how hard it is to see not getting a bid (or whatever your situation) as anything other than being judged harshly. I do want to tell you to look out for informal/PHA affiliate chapters (if applicable) if you still feel like Greek life is something you'd like to try, giving each chapter a chance is super important and I really do think there is a home for every woman on this campus who has the right mindset. I hope you try again and find that place :)