bid day advice
by: Wise
Hey PNMs!
Congrats on making it through pref round & two long weekends of recruitment. Please remember this tonight & tomorrow:
You may not get a bid from the house you hoped. You may get your hopes up tonight & be momentarily devastated tomorrow.
If you get a bid tomorrow and it’s not a house you “saw” yourself in, really pause for a moment before you consider not accepting. Every year I’ve seen girls who cry & don’t accept a bid because they think they’re above a chapter. I was one of them. I didn’t accept the bid & tried rerushing through fall informal & formal again. I ended up in the chapter I blew off the first time and still didn’t know that I really wanted to be in it. And I can tell you, I’m so happy where I am and never expected it based on recruitment.
Yes, you can’t rerush if you join a chapter and drop, but I promise you every chapter has great things to offer. My biggest regret of college was losing that year with my sisters because I was so wrapped up in the “politics” of it all and thought I wouldn’t like them based on 4 days of getting to know a handful of them.
That chapter sees something in you that you may not see yet in yourself. If you don’t think the chapter is perfect? News flash, none of them are. But it takes members joining & working to improve things to fix those things.
I hope you all join the perfect house & enjoy your time in Greek life. Best decision I made, just wish I didn’t let the politics of it make me lose a year of that.
#1by: Hi!
I love this post! PNMs, the chapters that may have dropped you is like “let it be” with them honestly. It could be a lot different than what it appears to be on their tumblr and IG pages and based from 3 convos you had from them. I’m graduated, but there’s reasons behind everything , and there’s life beyond greek life
Comment#2by: Happens
Yes! I love this!
And also remember, every chapter is different than what you see during recruitment & on social media. They will all be what YOU make it when you’re a member.
And honestly, there’s no chapters I can say my friends in Greek life hate (I mean, don’t get me wrong, everyone has their opinions. But generally we don’t just hate or talk bad on other chapters, unless they have done something personal against us). We respect and love all “tiers” and whatnot. I have friends across greek life who are my family, regardless of letters. We generally respect every chapter because we know every set of letters has great girls & does great things.
#4by: Posses off
This is all well and good except that when you get the phone call saying you were released especially after the house you wanted and went to preference round and they tell you they can’t wait to have you as apart of them and then drop you in bid day .. than what b/c now you have nothing you are devestared and now have nothing and feel like nothing!! It’s absolutely the worst to watch your friends all get bids especially to where they want and you are left alone and you weren’t even trying to be int he “most popular “ just trying to meet and be with. Bunch of girls you liked and who you thgt liked you
by: pissed off
thats all well and good and yes maybe ishould have paid better attention but everything was intimitading and yes i am on the shier side and dont make excuses for myself but i should not have been told by the chapter i so hoped for we cant wait to see you tommorow so yes it was devestaing and heatbreaking and i didnt want to take away a bid from someone who may have really wanted the second option i had when i thgt the first house was match on both sides.. I do plan on going through informa and I hope that i will not be frowned upon because i did suicide the first time not really knowing what i was doing and i hope that te ones going through informal will be opne minded
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by: deep breath
Being released from recruitment is heartbreaking. I understand those feelings of jealousy and frustration, and I can tell you it will fade sooner than you think.
However, I will point to this as a cautionary tale: if you went to pref and were dropped after, that means you chose to SIP, which your recruitment guide and the person supervising your MRABA signing would have told you put you at risk for being dropped. Had you written down both chapters you attended for pref, you would be having a bid day party somewhere, perhaps even your first choice as a quota addition.
So while I feel for you and disagree with how that chapter phrased what they said to indicate you were guaranteed a spot (and I’m sure they did want you!) I also know that this could have been avoided. If there are COB opportunities available, I hope you take them because now you see the value in being in any sorority, not just one.
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