cob

Bump

Not true. I don’t like this advice because some people can tell some houses aren’t a good fit, even if the house is willing to give them a bid. If they accept then drop, they can’t join another chapter so I don’t suggest that.

I would suggest:
• Discussing your options with your Rho Gams. This is what they’re there for. They may be able to help you decide if you should drop the house or not.
• Check out chapter’s like Phi Rho or DOK if you’re eligible by Major (but DOK isn’t PHA, just so you know).
• Really ask why you don’t want the house left. Is it superficial or just genuinely not a good fit ( for a legit reason)
• Wait until fall for more COB or wait until next spring to rush again (maybe with a better GPA to help)

Sure, but 99% of the time it's a superficial reason. No PNM actually knows whether they fit into a house or not. Unless a girl is actually rude to you or talks about something inappropriate (or unless you have a bad history with someone in the house), you don't know if you're a fit. Honestly, most PNMs can find a fit in most houses because every chapter has so many types of people. It's just that some fits are better than others. And most of the fit depends on the rest of the pledge class - less on the upperclassmen anyways.

Well if it is for a superficial reason, the only person it will hurt is themselves so they can look deep at that & make that decision themselves. Sure, I think I could’ve made any chapter work, but also when it comes down to it, that’s not always the case for everyone.

If they decide to drop, that is their choice & they know the options. If it’s superficial, they’d likely have to wait to try again until next spring for a “top” house & will find out the hard way again in a year if it truly wasn’t a fit. PNMs know that & Rho Gams make that clear.