advice for a girl that dropped formal recruitment

you aren't alone girl /:

My advice is to try all three of the things you mentioned above. All are fine options if recruitment stresses you out so much.

I'm sorry the process took it's toll on your self esteem, but if you do join a chapter, you'll understand where you're coming from. Half of the chapters have to cut 50% of PNMs after the first round alone and cuts have to happen somewhere. It's not easy on us either and it's not like you were dropped from all of the houses. For all you know, actives at the houses you had left will be upset that you dropped.

I was in your place year and I ended up dropping before pref. Now I'm an active in an upper mid chapter. I would say go out, have new experiences, make new friends, and better yourself. Go through informal and make the chapters who dropped you see what they were missing out on. Also, remember that recruitment isn't an interview but a conversation. Everything happens for a reason, and no matter where you end up, it'll be okay.

I'm sorry it's been so hard on you. I hated every second of formal. I cried and felt awful about myself when I got cut from houses. I pushed through to the end and I'm finally where I call home. I would highly highly recommended informal. Follow sororities on insta and you will see infernal event dates. Some are hard to get into, but it's still totally possible to join, even without confections in the chapter. You have less options but the girls genuinely take the time to know you through causal events and coffee dates for example. You aren't pressured to dress Certain way. You can fit it in your schedule. You don't Need too get up at 7 am. I wish I had just saved myself the trouble and done informal. I am more shy and struggled with how confident you have to be in the formal process. Look out for dates (and maybe even check on here cuz people post stuff on here as it comes out) keep an open mind and be yourself. If you want to join greek life there is a place for u. Formal is stressful and fake at. Don't lose hope, girl :) gl with informal!

What year are you

As a Rho Gam & someone who’s been through what you’re feeling, here’s my best advice.

If you’re eligible, try Phi Rho. the girl who leads recruitment has told us about how great they are honestly & they are pretty social. I believe they take a few majors outside of solely engineering that are STEM.

Also try DOK (Delta Omega Kappa) non-PHA for pre-health girls). They’re also a social sorority & amazing. One of my best friends is in it.

Try informal this semester. It’s a lot more laid back. That’s where I found my home.

Try informal in the fall if not.

Also, Alpha Phi Omega is a service based fraternity that is is co-ed and really like a family from what I’ve seen. Super involved.

Kappa is also colonizing and may be a great opportunity. Give them a chance! Being a founder is something that you’ll remember forever!

Definitely go for KKG! You just have to go to probably a couple required meetings then talk to someone like a consultant for an interview. I do not know how everything works for them but I heard it is similar to ZTAs process. They will want people from ALL classes and if you do not like them, then just do informal rush since you know what to expect. If you want to do informal, email them ASAP for info this and next semester. If not, definitely go for business frats! Good way to expand your connections for a career.

I am so sorry it was too much. Believe me, it is very hard and I really hope you find your future home. I was dropped from formal (grades) and eventually found my home through informal. I wish you the best of luck!!!

You're not alone! MANY girls come out of recruitment feeling worse about themselves than when they came in. If you feel this way, it might be how you may feel the community treats you later. Look at professional fraternities and sororities, there are sororities and great organizations for almost every major or interest. Frankly, informal isn't much easier and colonization is very tough. I would say take a beat and think it through, don't worry it isn't the end of the world!