the girls who get cut

There are bound to be a lot of cuts this weekend. When I went through formal, I was cut after sisterhood round & heart broken with no one to turn to who understood so as a senior active I want to put this out there now for anyone who may need it:

•I’m sorry you’re experiencing the negative effects of formal recruitment. It’s a really successful process for matching a majority of girls, but because of its nature, some always fall through the cracks & end up heart broken. I’m sorry you ended up here.

• It’s okay & expected to be upset! Cry if you need to because it’s absolutey normal to After this!

• It’s okay! People are going to tell you not to take it personally because “only a few girls had the chance to talk to you and only knew you for a few minutes”, but you’re obviously going to take it personally. I get that you may feel like you weren’t good enough now. That’s really not the case. It is hard for them to know you & we hate on the outside just as much that we have to judge you when we know so little. Just remember coming from someone on the other side of this now, it’s not going to be the end of the world!

• I truly believe there is a home for everyone who wants to be part of Greek life for the right reasons, formal just may not have been your time to shine & Find it. Try informal where you can dive deeper into learning about the chapter and tailor the experience to fit you more! Maybe it wasn’t your time yet: You can absolutely try formal again and have a completely different experience. Maybe you are meant to be a founder of Kappa and have a huge impact there! Maybe an associate chapter or major specific chapter is meant for you! You can still join a chapter!

• Don’t just accept a bid from anywhere later (especially during informal) because you want to just be in any chapter. If you don’t feel right about it and you absolutely can’t picture yourself there, don’t accept it. But also consider that they saw something in you that made you a good fit, so don’t just knock them because of superficial reasons. I also accepted a bid from somewhere i hated just because I wanted so badly to be a part of Greek life, and I’m so glad I waited and found my home & sisters.

You’ll all get past this I promise! This process is tough on everyone involved & remember you may very likely have a home waiting for you soon & now just wasn’t the time!