managing anxiety during rush

I'm an active in a chapter on campus and when I was going through rush, I drove myself CRAZY thinking about it constantly. Try to do other things to distract yourself. Now is a really good time to throw yourself into your school work and stay on top of it, because it will make you feel really good to be ahead in the academic part of your life since the social aspect is bringing you a lot of stress right now. It WILL work out. And after bid day you'll be crazy busy with your new sisters for about a week or so, and it will be nice to not have to worry about keeping track of school. Get out with your friends and go for ice cream or watch movies with them and don't make rush something that is always in the front of your brain. good luck (:

dude same

I feel the exact same way, and as someone who deals with anxiety also, these week is going to be really hard. One thing that I keep telling myself is that right now, at this moment, there is nothing I can do. I can't go back and change conversations or change the girls' perception of me, I just have to let things be. Obviously, that is easier said than done, but it helps me to realize that there truly isn't anything you can do (as opposed to there being something you can do but youre not actually doing it)

Coming from someone who was dropped from all the houses during formal after sisterhood round, I want you to really understand and accept that you may end up being dropped from all houses. Accept that, but don’t let it define you. Some girls slip through the cracks and sometimes you just ended up with someone you shouldn’t be paired with.

I do say trust the process. I hated it and it hurt me so badly when I was going through it, but because of that, I ended up finding my chapter in another way and finding my place to call home.

I found out the morning of sisterhood that of the 4 houses I had during philanthropy, all but one dropped me, including the one I pictured myself in and thought about all week. It was tough. I tried forcing myself to love the house i had left, but I couldn’t, and I got cut from them too.

It’s hard, but I truly believe there’s a fit to everyone in Greek life who wants to be part of it for the right reasons. If you do get dropped, you may be called back for bid day anyways (via snap bids), or may get a bid during informal this semester or in the spring, or maybe you’re meant to be a founder of Kappa or a member of an associate chapter.

If you get cut, it’s okay to be upset. Don’t let it define you. You’ll find your home if your heart is in the right place.

everyone already has said such amazing advice. even though i went through formal (and dealt with heavy cuts nonetheless that I took way to seriously at the time) I found my house despite feeling awful about just about all of formal. It felt fake and i felt self conscious about everything. every conversation. my appearance. I felt judged and it hit me hard when i got heavy cuts. I would definitely, as said above, go for informal. It can be something as chill as a starbucks date or too to meet some sisters and depending on that house's rules they can give u a bid. greek life is a really cool thing to be a part of. It is hard to judge a chapter off of the 5 girls u might meet in recruitment. A chapter could look great in recruitment but you might not fit. a house can look like you can't see yourself at all but it might become your home (this was it for me). I am so happy I stuck with it and gave it a chance though. It's been 2 years since I ran home and I almost didn't. I was about to drop when I didn't like the bid i got. My rho gam encouraged me to try it and I'm so glad I did. My point being, you should keep an open mind and give it a chance. it could become your home and change your life. Worst case scenario, if you are absolutely positive after trying it out that it's not for you, then you can drop before initating and try again another time. sorry this was long, but i can't stress it enough.

Good reminders in here for PNMs tomorrow. A lot of you are probably going to be hurt when you're cut from your favorites.