dealing with rejection

Well the houses that did invite you back see something very special in you and have invited you to pref, which means they basically can see you being a sister. The houses that cut you, for one reason or another, did not. You may have thought they were the perfect fit for you, but if they didn't take the chance on you, you should not be upset, because they are missing out on you. The actives know their chapter better than you do, and will know whether or not you will actually fit with them. I felt similar when getting cut last year when i did informal, but thinking about this made me feel better. Try to focus on the houses you have on the table right now, because they like you and would be happy to have you. Plus, if there are houses you had your heart set on im sure lots and lots of other girls did too. It's hard to get into some houses but if a house likes you and you are a good fit and meet requirements, you will be accepted. Trust the actives making the cuts, the ones who still have invited you back thus far clearly can see themselves clicking with you and accept you. All the houses here awesome in their own ways, and you may end up realizing your new house is perfect and maybe you had your heart set on these other ones for the wrong reasons. That's the way i've come to see it anwyay. sorry this is long. hope this helped.

Well one thing you can do is make friends with people in the houses. That way, you get the friendships you could have gotten (and tbh you also learn reasons why those houses may not have been a good fit for you in the first place).

Another is to get involved in your new home and shape it from the inside. What are the things you liked about the other houses? Try to bring those aspects into your new chapter.

And obviously becoming friends with your pledge class and getting a new sorority family helps a lot.

Honestly, no matter what house you end up in, your experience in a sorority is 100% what YOU make it. You can have friends in every chapter, both sorority and fraternity. This isn't a southern school where people are super competitive. If you spend your time feeling sorry for yourself because you got cut from a chapter you wanted, you won't have any fun. Give it a shot, go to all the events you can during your new member period (I can't stress this part enough) and you just might grow to love your chapter.

RT If a house can't see how special you are, you don't want them anyway! Surround yourself with people who love you for you!

I got cut from the house I really wanted. But made the most of the house that did want me. Many have been in the same place as you and who know maybe many in your pledge class will have a similar story. So
keep in mind your pledge class are the people your are going to become friends with not the actives from those other 2 houses that dropped you who you meet during recruitment.
So what it really comes down to are the labels/stigma that come with the letters of the house you will get a bid from ....not as popular as the two that cut you???