informal or formal recruitment?

Try to make friends in the chapters you would want to join if you are going to do informal. That helps a lot

Sounds like you only wanted a certain house. It's sad you didn't allow the process to work, there are amazing girls in all the chapters. The process does work, you have to be open to giving it a chance

Reality check: you don't 'drop' houses. We drop you. Unless more houses invited you back than the limit for the day - let me repeat - you do not drop houses. What this means is that other houses did not see enough in you to want you to join their sisterhood, at least compared to all the other PNMs. The houses that did invite you back did see something in you, although it is clear now that you didn't even deserve that. No PNM is 'above' ANY sorority. Every chapter has amazing women and you would be lucky to be a member of any of them. I'm sorry you didn't think you were a good fit, but obviously you didn't give them a chance based off of your notions on what you think you deserve.

TL;DR: You are not a special snowflake and until you get a reality adjustment, you do not deserve to be a member of any sorority.

Rant over.

Happens every year! If you truly wanted to be in Greek life you would have given the houses you had left a chance. If it wasn't the right fit after a month or so you could drop and re rush next year. Good chance if you do rerush you will have the same result. If you do rush again try to go in with an open mind and give all the houses a chance and if you aren't willing to do that Greek life is not for you. Nothing wrong with that Greek life isn't for everyone.

I got dropped by all but the one i couldn't afford. I don't trust rhe process either. I shouldn't join something i know i won't be happy in and waste my money. I want to be a part of it, but not to where it puts strain on my parents. i dropped because the process basically screwed me.give her a break.

I thought Theta DG Pi Phi were the most expensive?

Here's some advice every year i see great girls get cut. Then the next year they are literally in top houses. Because of many factors but one that seems to help a lot is becoming friends with girls that just pledged or are already in a house. Through this these girls meet the other actives and the next recruitment because they have because a familar face and know many actives they get a bid. I had a friend who finally decided to rush her junior year she got a bid from three top houses because of the friendships she had built over the years.

Also when you go through recruitment a second time hopefully you learned little tricks ie maybe you might choose how you dress to fit in more like the houses you like. And you know what to expect so you can be more prepared and feel more confident.

So be positive! Use this past recruitment year as a learning lesson and move on! Get out there and hang with girls that are in a house.

The hate or constructive criticism or whatever you want to call it is pretty ridiculous. All people say during rush is join the house you feel is the best fit for you. Now all of a sudden when she gets a bid from a sorority she doesn't feel is the right fit she gets called out for thinking she's above them?

They def don't all cost rhe same. And i know new member dues arw once, but my parents gave me a limit and i dont think im wrong for respecting them. It broke my heart to drop, and yes i know I'm not above any. It just sucks that the process ended up like this, so i feel a little screwed. I'm sure it works, but im real disappointed. Thanks for the informal suggestion though, i hope it works better.