someone from dg give me closure

I heard that rumor too. I dropped out of recruitment after DG and KKG dropped me (top two) so I would also like to hear confirmation of that rumor was true.

I'm not a DG, but I want to take a stab at some of the points you raised. First let me say that I sympathize, I didn't get my first choice house and even though I LOVED where I ended up, I still wondered in the back of my mind all the way to my senior year. Obviously I can't answer your question, but I'll bet no DG can pinpoint a reason either. Maybe it was your grades. Maybe you said something off-putting to your rusher and she was really good at hiding it. But the likeliest answer? You probably were awesome, and they probably did like you. The problem was that they liked a lot of other people too. Each chapter has a finite number of invites to give out which leaves members in the often miserable situation of choosing between loads of beautiful, intelligent, involved PNMs. Did you have letters of rec? Were you close friends with anyone in the chapter? Were you a legacy? Did you have a 4.0? Were you captain of your high school dance team? Were you an Abercrombie model? Did you intern for the Wall Street Journal? Because other girls did and were (all real resume lines I saw as a recruitment chair btw). As harsh as it is to get cut, it is worse to realize you'll never know why. It hurts, but unless you're willing to give up your bid & rush as a soph (not recommended) then all you can do is make the best of what you have. Try focusing on how you can improve YOUR chapter and throw yourself into it. You can make such an impact in 2-4 years! Good luck and panel love <3