why all the cattiness?

As a PNM, I am a little confused about all the cattiness. I was hoping to find a group of girls with whom I could connect and share like values and experiences. Getting on this site is disappointing. I was hoping to get information about the process and all I see is criticism and badmouthing. Truthfully, There were many nice girls in all the sororities. Some I felt more comfortable with than others and this is how I will end up making my decision. It certainly won't be made reading these rankings. We should all be able to choose a group based on their philanthropy and strive to make that group effective and productive. We are all here to do good things at OU and work together for the common good.
Just please stop all the cattiness! Its unproductive!