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Hesitant to sign the MRABA

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I accepted a bid from an org and it wasn't my top choice and while I think the org is great I don't think it's the right fit for me. I stuck it out and even at bid day, I felt so out of place. The girls are nice but they're not my vibe. I hope I don't sound mean or judgemental I'm trying my hardest to give it a chance but I can't help it. Should I drop before signing the MRABA and hold out hope of joining another org if COB happens by the slightest chance? I don't want to do formal recruitment next fall for sure as I will be an upperclassman and at that point, I'll be completely fine not being a part of greek life. Is anyone else in a similar situation? I feel so awful because I'm fully aware that someone else could have been so happy in this org so honestly if I drop sooner it'll perhaps open that spot up for someone else?

Posted By: idek
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While you shouldn’t stay in an organization you don’t like, you should have never accepted the bid. There are plenty of girls who would have loved to be there.

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by: idek   

I never said I didn't like them when I accepted the bid I said they weren't my top choice. I only accepted the bid because I thought I shouldn't judge the entire org from the few girls I met during recruitment but now that I've met many many more it hasn't made the difference I thought it would

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yeah i feel the same exact way and have been thinking the same. i think i'm just gonna stick it out since i can't rush next year anyway and theres no guarantee ill get a bid next year or if it'll be in person

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I felt the same way at the first few activities when I joined an org. I would say, get really involved right off the bat, and youll find your people. and if you still aren't feeling it, then you can drop in a year and you will prob still have great friendships from it.

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Same with me. I wasn't confident in my org on bid day but I made an effort to go to more events and really try to meet more girls. After a month,(yes give it a month)I found my group and we are so close and I wouldn't change it. Your org saw something in you that makes you a good fit. I would trust that and try and find your people. You can also always be friends with people in other orgs.

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I’m really struggling w this. I do want to get to know them better but honestly I’ve been so sad lately I’ve been thinking if it’s worth it. Is there anyone we can talk to ab how we feel? I simply just feel stuck.

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by: hey   

at the end of they day, regardless of what org people are in, we're all just college students. upperclassmen know what it's like to be underclassmen trying to find their way. there's a lot more empathy and understanding in this community than this website shows, so just trust that if you open yourself up they're going to want to help calm your nerves

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