getting dropped from sororities

I feel the same way. I know for a fact I'm getting dropped by at least one sorority for philanthropy but even though I know I'm getting dropped and technically why (didn't really have a meaningful conversation), it still sucks and makes me self conscious like I'm not good enough

i'm on the same page as you. a lot of my top choices dropped me after the first day and it's made me feel pretty down. encouragement from my family and friends has kept me more positive, as well as keeping in the mindset that if they don't want you, you shouldn't want them either.

Don't take it personally. I'm in one of the tops and I cried (multiple times) during rush. Now having been on the other side for a few years I can tell you it isn't always because you aren't pretty enough or cool enough, it's that there are just so many girls, and each day tons of girls have to be cut. Most likely to be cut are people who just aren't remembered for whatever reason and that's not your fault.

This is why Panhellenic recruitment is so flawed. You can't get to know women in 30-35 minutes of loud, repetitive conversation. So many great women fall through the cracks & it's just as disappointing to the chapters when they miss out on someone that they later find out is awesome, just because they had to cut an arbitrary number of women based on last year's returns. I know saying not to take it personally is absurd. but please know that just because you don't get invited back to the top chapter (or even your top chapter) does not reflect on your value as a person or potential sister. If you decide not to pursue one of the chapters that aren't regarded as "top," make an effort to meet women who are members of the chapters you regard highly and try again next year. If you can't wait until next year, give one of the "lower tier" (I hate that term) chapters a shot. I promise, sisterhood is about more than the 3-4 years you are in college...and you can make meaningful friendships in each and every chapter at NYU if you put in the effort.

Yeah I only got called back to 3 chapters for Sunday and that makes me feel like I'm going to get cut from all of the for philanthropy because I wasn't even there Sunday because of a family emergency. No one will remember me

Don't let it get to you!!! Panhellenic recruitment at NYU is so flawed- everyone's meeting so many girls at once it becomes nearly impossible to really keep track of who you met and if you liked them. There were several PNMs I loved but couldn't remember the names of last year because I was just too tired and I'm sure that's the case for a lot of girls. Just know that 9 times out of 10, getting dropped as nothing to do with you. It sucks but I'd like to think it's getting better every year as the sororities learn better ways of keeping track of who they've met.

Hi! Active sister here...I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. I remember feeling the same way when I was going through recruitment as a pnm. But from the other side, it's just as difficult for the sisters too. It's never an easy decision to drop someone, and it's frustrating to have to make those decisions based off of such short conversations. In a perfect world, we would be able to invite back as many girls as we want, but unfortunately that isn't the case. Please keep in mind that wherever you end up doesn't define who you are; you're much more than your letters. I can promise you that if you keep your heart and mind open, you'll grow to love wherever you end up <3