Why "trust the process" if someone gets a srat..
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They don't want? My grand daughter is rushing here and really doesn't want KKG GPB KD or AXO, I have no idea what that means and told her to go where she wants. She said that it doesn't work that way and that you will go where ever the sororities want you.
Is there any way around this? She said she needs a legacy letter or something but what does that mean? I never rushed because I never went to college. I came here to see if anyone here can help? This was the site she used to figure out the Greek scene here.
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Comment#2 by: tiger
She is correct that PNMs have little to no say. You can rank the sororities in order of preference, but ultimately, if they don't choose to invite you back it doesn't matter how highly you ranked them. You cannot return to a sorority that didn't invite you back, even if you ranked them number 1.
In this situation, if she truly is sure she would not want to be in AXO, KD, GPB, or KKG, she needs to rank these 4 at the bottom of her list every night and just hope that the others like her enough to invite her back.
If she truly has already determined that she is not willing to give these 4 a chance and would not accept a bid from them, her best chance of ensuring that they release her is by directly telling them that she really doesn't see herself there and asking them not to invite her back.
#3 by: tiger
I want to add that she needs to be prepared for the very likely possibility that she'll end up without a bid, since she's written off a third of the sororities before rush has even started.
On pref night, if one of these 4 is still on her schedule, and she knows that she doesn't want to join that chapter, she needs to NOT list them on her MRABA. This ensures that she will not get a bid from them.
by: Thank you!!Aug 15, 2023 6:48:38 PM
Thank you very much! This was very helpful. I think she has friends in other groups and is concerned she will end up somewhere she is alone and somewhere where she got a bad impression of the girls. She said she had great conversations with Zeta and Alpha Pho and has friends in Delta Pi, Chi O and PhiPhi.
These other she either met through her friends and did not like the conversations they had, KKG and KD specifically talked down on her friend in PhiPhi and said she was "too pretty" not to join them. She did not appreciate that. I'm sorry for being rude earlier if I was, thank you for responding with helpful information anyways.
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by: Thank you!!Aug 15, 2023 6:53:31 PM
Also she is from the state of Georgia where I am so I hope that doesn't matter either. She is worried about sororities here being picky about in state people and too into ranks, I think her conversations with KD and KKG were why.
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by: yeahAug 15, 2023 6:27:33 PM
i was thinking the same exact thing. also legacies/letters of rec are becoming less important. most sororities here care more about gpa, social media appearance, and how conversations go throughout in-person rounds.
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by: WowAug 15, 2023 4:31:56 PM
I wasn't trying to be rude here, and I don't see why it's so wrong for her to want something different than these 4. She has no friends in either and has either got a bad impression from them when she visited campus (GPB AXO KKG) or doesn't like the mean nasty things these groups say about others (KD KKG) on this site or when she met them.
I feel the "process" should at least give girls the chance to have at least some say. Maybe I could have worded my post better so I apologize. I'm sure these groups are good girls, just not for her. Can anyone else help? I will probably just suggest for her not to rush if this is the case.
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