Potential New Members

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I went through recruitment and accepted a bid. It was awful and I dropped. I knew it was not a fit, but I went with it anyway. I agree that in 15-20 a handful of strangers can't judge you right, but they do. Turned out bad for me.

My experience was different. I accepted a bid to what was probably my #3 choice. I figured I had nothing to lose, so I went with it. I have made friends and have had some great times. I do think one of my other two picks would have been a better fit for me, but I stayed with it and did not drop.

Be ready for rules pnms. If you don't like or want someone telling you what to do a sorority is not a smart move. Tough when you see actives breaking all the rules you must follow.

I am happy enough in my group. Yes, you have to be a rule-follower, but it isn't that tough. It just depends on your personality, how much you love your group, and what you are willing to sacrifice to remain a member.

Remember PNMs, when you go through recruitment week the groups pick you. You do not pick them. Your choice is really only at the very end and even at that last night the groups still get the final decision. You just cross your fingers and hope you get your top choice that final night.

You don't need to feel pressure to join a sorority at FGCU. You can still meet plenty of friends, go to parties, and have a great college experience without being involved in the Greek system. You can always wait a semester or year to see if it is something you want to do.

Met a girl on my hall that pledged in August. It took her a few weeks to realize the group she accepted a bid from was not right for her. She dropped because she was miserable. At first I thought she was a bit harsh, but then I realized she is paying for membership. She did not get to choose a group she really wanted to be a member in. She had to go through the process and all she kept hearing from her rho gam was "trust the process." The process does not always work and needs to be updated. 15 minutes here and 30 minutes there is really not enough time for a few girls to have judged her. You wouldn't pay for a car or clothes or food if it wasn't right, so why stay in a sorority that is not a good fit either?

Prep yourself before recruitment. Most girls face cuts. Most girls do not get the group they initially wanted. Member selection is a bit sketch. They choose you and not the other way around. PNMs reality is you make final decision if you want to belong to the one group you are matched with. Until bid day it is out of your hands.

The real truth is the rush funnel is appearance based and who you know. They can tell you anything they want, but this is pretty much how it works.