what surprised you about your own rush?
by: BetsyJust as the title says - did anything surprise you about your own rush? Be it the conversations you had with people, the houses you visited, the process as a whole, etc? :)
#1 by: Dazed and confused
I was surprised by how I didn't find a home in all of the places I most felt home. I was surprised by having amazing conversations with sisters, only to be dropped. I was surprised that my high GPA, involvement, desire to lead, and relative attractiveness wasn't enough. I was surprised by how this process made me feel about myself. I understand why it's done, and I know there's really no other way to do recruitment, but I was surprised by the sheer number of amazing people who fell through the cracks. I was surprised by all of the freshmen referring to people as GDI's and making fun of people for crying, they got what they wanted from rush week. There are probably a lot of people like me: sophomores with a lot of hope who released themselves, signed up for COB, didn't hear back from that, and now probably won't even make it into Greek life. It was heartbreaking.
Commentby: WellSep 5, 2015 1:50:28 PM
But how long did you spend in those chapters before deciding they were not for you? How many sisters did you meet? 40 minutes, 60 minutes (some of it spent crying because a favorite chapter released you?)? 6 or 8 sisters out of 150? You also would have been coming in with a big pledge class full of girls - you don't know which of those women you could see yourself becoming best friends with.
Even the "bottom" chapters at Florida State are great houses and sisterhoods - and every house has a lot of different types of women. You can be devastated and heartbroken, but acknowledge your own part in this.
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by: Dazed and confused Sep 5, 2015 9:16:19 AM
Yes, I did release myself but please don't just quickly arbitrate my decision. The houses that I got back were great and wonderful places, but I knew that I could not see myself there. I knew that I wanted to be part of a sorority more than I wanted to be part of those chapters. That was not a good enough reason. But more than that, on a personal level, I was very sad, I cried in some of the houses and I had parties all day long. I was mentally weary and I just didn't want to continue. Maybe that's not a good enough reason, but it was good enough for me. I wasn't going to join something I didn't feel connected to just because I wanted to join a sorority.
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#5 by: Still dazed
I had parties all day, with long breaks in between meaning that I would have been on campus all day long. I wasn't really concerned with the tiers, I wanted to find a philanthropy that meant something to me and the houses that dropped me happened to have a philanthropy I could throw myself into. This was a very hard decision and I understand that I maybe did opt myself out of Greek life, but at the time it felt right.
by: GuestSep 5, 2015 2:26:05 PM
Still very stupid reasons. Why are you here acting like you're some victim to the process then?
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#6 by: Excuse me
I'm not meaning to act like a victim. I know what I did. I was telling my story. I'm sorry that women who have found their place do not agree with me, but what I did felt right. I don't regret it. I wish the circumstances were different, but they're not. I know that I wasn't the best version of myself in some houses because I was tired. Don't call my decision stupid when you only know the parts of it that I decided to disclose.
by: GuestSep 6, 2015 11:20:03 AM
"telling your story". There is no story. You dropped because you didn't get the house you wanted just like a bunch of other girls.
"Sophomores with a lot of hope that released themseleves, signed up for COB, didn't hear back from that, and now probably won't even make it into greek life". Did your rho gammas encourage you to do this? Doubtful considering we rarely do COB at this school. I have no idea why you would release yourself and expect to get the house you want (that already said they do not think you're a good fit during rush) to randomly give you a bid after rush is over. Sophomores and Juniors out of everyone should have stuck it out. Were you misinformed?
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#7 by: realistic
Nothing surprised me about rush as I went in KNOWING I was being judged and critiqued on a very superficial level. I was well aware that there may be a chance I may not get the house "I wanted" but I was also open to what was offered and I was prepared for that.
Stop over thinking it. Sororities are only one part of your college experience..there is so much more
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by: WellSep 5, 2015 8:04:43 AM
The fact that you released yourself says a lot. That means there were still houses that saw something great in you - a high GPA, your desire to lead, your relative attractiveness - and thought you would be an asset to their house. If you wanted the Greek life experience, you should have stuck it out.
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