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If she wasn't going to accept a bid from that house, she should not have ranked them after Pref. Sorry her Rho Chi didn't make that clear to her.

Same thing happened to my daughter - this is way different from sorority days. I can't see forcing someone into a house they don't want. My daughter got one of her choices prefabs two non. She was a double legacy at one house and was dropped day two. So so disappointed in the process!

No one is forced into anything. That was the house that could see your daughter in it, the others could not.

Agreed

The recruitment process was fuzzy 15 years ago, and it seems to be even more so now. If PNM drops a house they should not come back on their schedule.

That she didn't at least give it a try. She can't re rush for a year whether she doesn't even attend bid day or drops the day before initiation. Might as well have given it a go.

What this means is that of the three houses she choose her first 2 did not rank her high enough to get a bid but the 3 rd house did. If she had left out the third house she may not have gotten a bid at all. The other houses just did not feel she was a good enough for. The only reason that house showed back up is because out of the others on her list no one ranked her high enough or voted for her, at which point the non wanted house ranked her high enough that they used it to fill in the empty hole. This happens all the time and I coach moms to encourage the girls to try it till initiation. Every single person I know in this same situation grew to love and make friends in the sorority. It is a tough process and many girls got cut completely so she should be very happy someone wanted her and gave her a bid, because the reality is the other ones did not want her. So would you rather be with a group of girls that wanted or ones that don't.

Here is the truth. Your daughter was probably a big fish in a small pond back home. The average gpa for an incoming freshman at fsu...average gpa...is 4.0. Many were much higher. So your daughter was a cheerleader. So what? So were lots of the PNMs. So she is pretty. Same thing, welcome to the club. FSU greek system gets more and more competitive each year. A bid is a gift. Enjoy the next year on the outside looking in, wondering what could have been.

I am in a fraternity but I heard FSU has more girls go through rush than UF does, even though UF is so much bigger. Gives you an idea of how crazy competitive sorority rush is here.

Yes she can be an independent and there is absolutely nothing wrong in that! There are so many other clubs and organizations to join. She will be fine!! But what I am saying is there is no steering involved at all!!!! She did not have to ever list the unwanted house!!!! If it came back at prefs and she absolutely did not want it she should have left it out and only listed 2 of them. If The other two houses had listed her in their top quota she would have gotten her #1 choice. But that did not happen. When a unwanted house pops up the next day it is because the PNM had slots not filled by the houses she wanted so the computer will pull any other house that did want her if any and fill the empty slot. It's like the unwanted house is a freebie is the best I can explain. It is a hard process and it sounds like she got back a lower tiered house and right now does not want to be involved with them. it was extreamly competitive this year. But as a mom I would advise her to stick it out and decide before initiation- don't be a quitter before she gets to know some of the girls. She may end up being surprised!!