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by: FSU Parent17 houses, then 13, then called back to 7 houses while other girls our daughter knows only got called back to one. Then of the 3 houses that was our daughters preference, 2 were listed and a 3rd non preference house was put in place of preference house. She visited, saw the ceremonies, ranked the houses and of course got a bid for the replacement which was her 3rd choice.. At every step of the way she kept an open mind but it was if this house was forced on her. She dropped. great student, pretty, cheerleader... and modest.
Comment#2 by: FSUmama
Same thing happened to my daughter - this is way different from sorority days. I can't see forcing someone into a house they don't want. My daughter got one of her choices prefabs two non. She was a double legacy at one house and was dropped day two. So so disappointed in the process!
by: huh?Aug 23, 2015 4:41:25 PM
This is the way it works....you go to prefs to three houses and you can end up with one of the three. She is lucky she got a house because lots did not. The days of our rush in the 80s have changed so much - back then there were not near as may legacies as many mothers of college students in the 80s had not gone to college. Now, most mothers have gone to college and many were in sororities. You can't extend legacy preference as much anymore. Its just the fact of life. sorry ladies.
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by: FSU ParentAug 23, 2015 3:44:36 PM
Better to have no bids than a house that is obviously attempting to fill it's ranks.
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by: FSUmamaAug 23, 2015 3:54:58 PM
I was a Chapter President I know how it works - it's a game of numbers not necessary if someone likes you or not. I realize the girls in the chapters job isn't easy - they spend hours upon hours in selection. It's not any easy job. I was simply saying back in my time before using RFM if a PNM dropped a house that was it. They didn't keep showing back up.
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by: GuestAug 24, 2015 12:36:23 PM
by: to the 1970s chapter prezAug 23, 2015 6:14:45 PM
by: FSU ParentAug 23, 2015 5:23:41 PM
by: FSUAug 23, 2015 5:51:38 PM
A PNM doesn't drop a house though - they just rank it at the bottom of their list.
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by: huh?Aug 23, 2015 4:43:06 PM
and, she took a spot from girl who really wanted that house. she should have not preffed at house three if she would not have taken a bid.
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by: TheAug 23, 2015 4:49:57 PM
#7 by: Fsu
What this means is that of the three houses she choose her first 2 did not rank her high enough to get a bid but the 3 rd house did. If she had left out the third house she may not have gotten a bid at all. The other houses just did not feel she was a good enough for. The only reason that house showed back up is because out of the others on her list no one ranked her high enough or voted for her, at which point the non wanted house ranked her high enough that they used it to fill in the empty hole. This happens all the time and I coach moms to encourage the girls to try it till initiation. Every single person I know in this same situation grew to love and make friends in the sorority. It is a tough process and many girls got cut completely so she should be very happy someone wanted her and gave her a bid, because the reality is the other ones did not want her. So would you rather be with a group of girls that wanted or ones that don't.
by: FSU ParentAug 23, 2015 5:40:17 PM
She's strong and independent enough to know that she'd rather be a GDI at this point rather than be steered toward a house that she had eliminated from her list. She eliminated two "top Tier' houses at the onset because she felt the young women were superficial. We all have preferences... the houses and the girls. The top two houses probably wouldn't have selected her either.. a mutual process which I think we all can respect. All of the houses have to make cuts and select the best young women who meet their criteria. We all know this. It is a difficult process and she really kept an open mind until the end and decided not to settle. As for taking a spot from another girl..I'm sure her's will be filled and I wish the best of luck to that young woman.
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by: GreekAug 25, 2015 9:11:40 PM
Mom, yes her spot can be filled and will be filled! However, the girl that fills her spot will have missed out one of the most memorable sorority experience-- bid day and running to your house to meet your new sisters. This is what Ticks me off!!! Her felling that she was too good for a sorority that she did not even give a chance to! Disgusting!
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by: Past president 2013Aug 25, 2015 9:46:11 PM
Mom what you are not hearing is your daughter did not eliminate then from her list - she ranked them. If it was back in your time and she eliminated them she would have only had two for Prefs and had no bid. RFM is the process that places the most amount of girls. Sad that your daughter looks as it as settling because the group she was placed in wanted her. It is this attitude that keeps some newer groups from ever improving
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#8 by: truth
Here is the truth. Your daughter was probably a big fish in a small pond back home. The average gpa for an incoming freshman at fsu...average gpa...is 4.0. Many were much higher. So your daughter was a cheerleader. So what? So were lots of the PNMs. So she is pretty. Same thing, welcome to the club. FSU greek system gets more and more competitive each year. A bid is a gift. Enjoy the next year on the outside looking in, wondering what could have been.
by: FSU ParentAug 23, 2015 5:44:07 PM
Truth I'm sure she will still have a wonderful college experience because there is more to FSU than Greek life. Yes, she was very accomplished like many of the other pnm's thanks for noticing.
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#10 by: Fsu
Yes she can be an independent and there is absolutely nothing wrong in that! There are so many other clubs and organizations to join. She will be fine!! But what I am saying is there is no steering involved at all!!!! She did not have to ever list the unwanted house!!!! If it came back at prefs and she absolutely did not want it she should have left it out and only listed 2 of them. If The other two houses had listed her in their top quota she would have gotten her #1 choice. But that did not happen. When a unwanted house pops up the next day it is because the PNM had slots not filled by the houses she wanted so the computer will pull any other house that did want her if any and fill the empty slot. It's like the unwanted house is a freebie is the best I can explain. It is a hard process and it sounds like she got back a lower tiered house and right now does not want to be involved with them. it was extreamly competitive this year. But as a mom I would advise her to stick it out and decide before initiation- don't be a quitter before she gets to know some of the girls. She may end up being surprised!!
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by: FSU ParentAug 23, 2015 3:43:10 PM
The fact that another house was put in place of a preference is the frustrating part. Just don't include houses that a PNM hasn't delineated. After the bid process then have the houses make contact via COB.
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