made a mistake ...
by: sadI dropped and already regret my decision. I'm already thinking about trying again next year as a sophomore, but what are my chances... will dropping this year be held against me? Do sororities have a "once cut always cut" rule? I'm just really upset, I was really looking forward to being a part of Greek life and let my emotions get the better of me and realize now, I made a big mistake.
#1by: I understand
You were brave to put yourself out there and you can always go through Spring recruitment or wait till next year and chances are that they'll sympathize with you more than you think. Just focus on your grades, getting involved in other organizations, and making the best of your time at Florida State because if you really want this and you keep trying, chances are in time you will find a home that loves you.
Comment#2by: Guest
I dropped freshman year after I wasn't happy after pref day. I rushed again as a sophomore and got into one and did a lot better that time with my houses too. I think you should have waited till pref, but yes definitely rush again next fall and stick it out! Now you have an idea of what its like to prepare
#3by: sad
thank you for taking the time to reply... I guess I just don't understand what I did wrong. I have a great gpa 3.8 - I am well rounded, varsity cheerleader all four years of highschool, very involved, I am not stick thin, but a size 4 - I'm not Barbie doll pretty but think I'm a really cute girl, and I'm really outgoing... I knew I would be cut, I just didn't think I'd be cut by almost all of them...I'm just confused and a little heartbroken.
by: Sammy
by: Hi
What did the sororities you had left that you rejected when you dropped out of recruitment "do wrong?" See how quickly you made a judgement about them? Same goes for the way PNMs are judged as well.
- 19
- 1
#4by: What happened
by: sad...
I guess both, I got cut from all but two... like I said, I expected to be cut, just not to that degree.. and i cant stop wondering why?!? I hear everyone else talking about what houses they got back and I just don't get it, why them and not me... it just sucks.
- 3
- 2
by: sad...
I guess both, I got cut from all but two... like I said, I expected to be cut, just not to that degree.. and i cant stop wondering why?!? I hear everyone else talking about what houses they got back and I just don't get it, why them and not me... it just sucks.
- 0
- 2
by: So
Something with the computer system that matches mutual selection got messed up and a lot of girls got dropped from houses that liked them so don't feel bad about yourself it was just a glitch
- 1
- 8
by: @So
That's not true at all. There was no "glitch." It's something people like to say to make others feel better for being dropped.
The reasons for getting dropped are generally not as personal as you think. I know it's hard to believe, and doesn't make it any better. Mostly it has to do with the fact that we wanted certain PNMs more than you, not that we didn't like you or there's something wrong with you. Sometimes it's just a matter of there being a lot of PNMs who already have connections to members, a lot of legacies we need to invite back etc. So it's more about them than you if that makes sense.
Keep your grades up. Get involved and meet a lot of people. Go through again and keep an open mind next year.
- 14
- 6
by: sad...
honestly, know ...I did not, I could have gotten them, but I asked actives several times if they were needed at FSU and everyone said that they didn't really do much , that they would possibly get you to the second round... I didn't have a problem getting to the 2nd round.. it was the 3rd that I never made it to...
- 1
- 0
#8by: Don't blame the system.
She did not have recs. I bet you would have had more success if you had gone to the trouble to get recs. Look at it this way-the majority of the girls rushing are just like you. Great GPA, activities, cute, good conversationalists, etc, i.e., very similar qualifications. The sororities can't invite back everyone. Let's say a chapter has one invitation left and it is between you and another girl. everything is the same except she has a rec and you don't. She is going to get the invite. Some of the sororities have a national rule that each girl they pledge has to have a rec. It is an easy decision to cut the girl with no rec. Be sure to get them before you rush again. Even for COB.
by: Guest
Do you even go here? Recs mean literally nothing past the first round. And this school doesn't really do COB.
- 20
- 4
by: Yes
I do go here. My sorority has to have a rec for each girl we pledge.
Ever heard of Winterfest? That's where interested girls can meet members from all the sororities and sign up for informal (COB) recruitment. Happens in January. Sororities below total can COB.
- 8
- 10
by: Guest
Spring recruitment? And that's a ridiculous requirement of your sorority. I've never heard of a single sorority needing that.
- 5
- 0
by: Yes
It does. And how many sororities do you know the membership selection of? It is private information. I don't think YOU go here, and I sure don't think you are a sorority member.
- 2
- 12
by: Guest
by: FSUmama
My daughter was a double legacy, I got her revs from National Officers and she was still dropped from my house after Round 2. Recs are good but not great. I like the old way of rush when you had more than one day to make an impression!
- 1
- 0
by: @mom
by: Hi
#10by: sophomore
I rushed last year and ended up dropping because I wasn't in love with any of the houses that I got back for pref. I returned this year as a sophomore to rush and did even worse than last year, and I would describe myself the same way you did. I also have a gorgeous friend that did the same exact thing as me and also just dropped today. We both have a lot of really good friends in pretty much every house as well. There were a lot of upperclassmen that rushed this year, so maybe that had something to do with it. I would say go for it, but don't really count on it turning out differently because I know I did and I was pretty disappointed. But I have noticed that you do have deeper conversations as a sophomore and it's not the generic major and hometown thing.
Post Reply
Before you type: Please do not post individual names, defaming content, or spam. Remember, cyber bullying can be considered a crime.
YOU MAY ALSO LIKE
Didn't find your school?Request for your school to be featured on GreekRank.
by: Hey
It's not you it's the system. Each house sees so many girls and decisions are made pretty quickly that sometimes great girls do get cut. It's not the end of the world by any means . There is so much more to fsu than Greek life ... Seriously
- 8
- 0
Report