sorority questions

1. Some do, but that wears off for mostly everyone about Junior year, sometimes sooner. Everyone does want to be better though. Recruitment is legit and the superficiality does come out, but with claws. Every other time of the year no one cares. Except homecoming partners, it factors in sometimes there.
2.Yes! Most sororities like other sororities, some are closer than others due to recruiting similar girls. Every year you have a sister sorority you do a function (small) or two with. Most girls have friends in different chapters. It's not like "oh shes a X, ew". lol
3. Yes sometimes. Not sure if you mean with the pnms (Definitely).There is some minor upsetting sometimes if someone you pref and really loved chooses a house you know will be wrong for them. But they don't blame them, just are disappointed I guess.