getting your second house

Sometimes you have to really give it some time. I know so many girls who didn't end up where they thought they would/wanted to but one random day like a month in you could randomly sit next to someone at lunch and they could be your person. If you give it time and really feel like it's not right for you you can drop but really give it your all and you can find your people.

This happened to me last bid day but I promise you you will love it if you stick it through. I was obviously a little upset and I honestly hated bid day, but right now I'm so happy I was put into the sorority I'm in. I believe everything happens for a reason and I'm so happy with how everything happened. Don't be discouraged.

I felt exactly the same way you are feeling now when I received my 2nd choice on bid day. I kept a fake smile plastered on my face the whole day but kept looking at the girls who got the house I thought I belonged in with envy and when I got back to my dorm room that night, I sobbed on the phone with my mom. She told me that I owed it to myself to give it a chance and I am so glad I listened!

It didn't happen overnight, but within a few weeks I had made friends with girls in my pledge class and in the sophomore PC. I showed up to events and when opportunities for more involvement came, I took them. I am now a senior and cannot imagine these last few years without my sisters. I love my sorority and the opportunities for friendship and leadership that it has provided.

Here's the thing - I'm sure I would have also been happy in my first choice. But I have learned that all of the houses have great girls who work hard to make their chapter shine and you will get out of sorority life what you put into it. If you keep thinking that you don't fit in to the house that gave you a bid, then you won't be happy there. Go hang out at the house, make plans to go out with your pledge class and embrace the opportunity you've been given. If after a few weeks of really trying, you still feel the same, then at least you know you really gave it your best effort.

My chapter wasn't my first choice either, and I definitely felt that way at first; but honestly it was the right place for me overall. I ended up loving it and I can't see myself having been anywhere else the past 3 years.