recruitment

To all PNMS that have dropped from recruitment or been dropped by houses they loved:
this very day of last year i would not believe that i would be typing something about being on "the other side" of recruitment because I had just dropped from formal recruitment. After rush my freshmen year, I had trust issues on wether someone was really genuine or fake because of how blind sided I felt after houses I had awesome conversations at dropped me. However, after doing spring rush and rushing other PNMs I now realize what happened. 1. the women rushing you know their chapter better then you. so many times i have rushed a girl and genuinely liked her but saw she didnt fit the personality of my chapter and I was unsure if she could make friends here and fit in. It was heart crushing for me releasing those women but i knew at the end of the day they would be much happier elsewhere. this week so many women in my chapter were crying during scoring(including myself) because they felt so terrible and wanted to tell the PNM that it wasn't personal at all. 2. I have talked to so many amazing women but they didnt hit it off with another sister so when the whole weeks scores were added up they didnt make the cut. I will always think about how those 2 girls who cried to me felt when they were released. recruitment sucks because there is such a gap in the process. the girls who are superstars return and the girls who you really don't want do not. but the ones in the middle are almost random.