bid night advice rant

I do agree that 'Barnard Bimbos' is an unfair term although there exists a certain rep on campus about them. There are many accomplished women who attend and will go on to great success. Granted however, the facts are that ED at Barnard is in the 40th percentile with an overall AR of 25% versus Columbia's 6%. Statistically, it is harder for a freshman female also competing against males to be admitted to Columbia versus Barnard, for whatever it's worth.

As for recruitment, for me it was tiring, shallow and overall not enjoyable. I didn't love any of the groups although I did like Theta's parties slightly more than Deeg with the others below them. But, I did not make either of their lists and at that point was distraught. I subsequently have become friends with outstanding women in all of the sororities and have heard their troubles over the year, sorority life is far from perfect and I know they all agree. Freshmen that are disappointed, I have been there. I feel your pain but I am relieved I didn't join as jealousy, gossip, pettiness, competition and drama exists in each of them. With time, I think that you too will be relieved, trust me.

Regarding Theta, it is unfair for there to be so many Theta hatas because similar problems can exist anytime a group of women gets together. I think the problem with Theta in particular is it's one of the most desired chapters. They drop you, you are going to have hurt feelings. Another issue is it is actually as if they are two sororities. The very large majority of the girls seem to be intelligent, authentic, respected and possess positive qualities. But a small group don't necessarily possess those desired qualities. Think high school 'mean girls' who haven't grown up. The try hard slick wannabes as mentioned in the Bwog article are the ones who are katty to everyone except their clique. These 'booze and boys' sisters are the ones who harm Theta's rep. As far as I've heard on too many occasions to remember, many of those sisters attend Barnard although I've only heard this from males who have hit and run so take it for whatever it's worth. Deeg has plenty o problems 2 but they don't seem to be as diverse personality wise and don't get as much grief as a result. Eeryone knows Theta is the most trad sorority here but Deeg doesn't care about sisterhood or the campus social scene. Social life is the downtown club scene, dates lean towards post grads and Wall Street types. Most are sophisticated and past the college scene so in some ways the sorority overall is more mature because they simply don't care about sisterhood. I am so happy I didn't get selected to any of the groups. To the disappointed freshmen out there, please take your recruitment experience, learn from it and just move on. College life is going to be a meaningful experience but only if you make it so. Now put on your headphones, completely avoid social media and veg for the evening.

you obviously wrote all of these messages. get over yourself