sophomore rerushing
by: sohmaI went through recruitment this year and was dropped by Theta, DG, and AXO after the first day (SDT was my last choice and I made it through all three days for Gamma Phi/AOPI). I didn't overly click with the two sororities that were interested in me and ended up dropping out of recruitment. However, I'm still very interested in joining a sorority and I feel like I'm missing out. Some girls I like ended up in SDT and AXO, and I realize I may have misjudged SDT initially (had a bad experience with one of the members on the first day of recruitment). Do I have any chance next year? I specifically am most interested in AXO; I felt like I connected with these girls/their philanthropy the most (I've spent years working with domestic violence causes). Thank you!
#1by: hello
Comment#2by: judgement call
If you strongly desire NPC sorority affiliation and are willing to work diligently and earnestly with any group that bids you, repeat your recruitment. It will pay you to be kind alike to every sorority regardless of your intended target group. You can't become a sister if you don't re-recruit, and I encourage you to do so.
by: harsh
this is a little harsh but I agree, most do stick to "dropped once, dropped again" and if I were you I would just go in with an open mind and see what happens
even if you think you may fit in there now, they are more likely to prioritize first time new members and first years, and may even put you at a disadvantage if they think you're only trying to be friends so that you can get in
basically, choose to be part of a sisterhood that you would actually want to be part of and that actually wants you to be there instead of trying to force yourself into somewhere you don't actually fit
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by: desperatelyseekingsisters
The take-away from recruitment, both formal and informal, is the sororities have final say over who gets invited back and who does not. You may place the same sorority at the bottom of your "wanted" list each round, but if you do not receive enough invites from your "top" groups your "bottom" sorority is allowed (if they voted to do so) to hand you their invitation. Accept it or no--only you can decide.
Women join other women, not greek letters. Despite the graduation of one school class, and your friendships with sorority women, since your last formal recruitment you may not be invited back to a home/some homes due to sorority-specific private membership selection reasons.
Focus on what you can change about yourself and your attitude for your next recruitment. Don't worry about what you have no power to change.
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#4by: Nope
Sorry but you’re incorrect, the vast majority of women who gets bids are first years with zero connections who just clicked with the sisters - I’m a senior, trust me. If you didn’t get a bid, it means they didn’t click with you the same way they liked other first years. I know it’s difficult to accept that you weren’t a fit, but this sounds like what happened. Having friends in a sorority means nothing. I have friends in every sorority, and even though I love them and appreciate their organizations, I know I probably wouldn’t be a fit there and vice versa. Lastly, bringing up the names of orgs is pretty classless and just kind of a bad look in general. They’ll easily be able to figure out who you are. The fact that you even bring up rank shows that it is important to you. There were two organizations that liked you and thought you were a fit, and it seems like you didn’t give them a fair chance. Def consider going through recruitment again, but this time try to think about where you’d actually fit. I’m sorry this is harsh, but it’s frustrating to every year see women convince themselves that they were dropped as a mistake, when it’s reality it’s rarely if ever a mistake.
by: Why lie?
Tbh this is a complete lie. Sororities like theta and DG will stalk you and find out every detail about your life to curate their perfect pledge class before girls even have a chance to show their personality. Nice Instagram? Check. Rich? Check. Notable family member? That’s a plus. Next, think about where all the new members live and who they hang out with. They all go out and live in Carman and befriend upperclassmen in the process or make their presence known in some other way on campus. So yeah, if you’re coming into Columbia and are reading this make sure you start an aesthetic instragram now and live in carman and be a regular at Mel’s/1020/the Heights etc. while you’re at it, yet to know some sig eps and dsigs. That should make you a better fit for ~certain~ sororities over others!
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#5by: K...^
Point being there’s not much the original poster can do about it now? I don’t think that comment was saying there’s not superficiality in the process - they’re just saying original poster wasn’t a fit and should accept it. It sounds like regardless of why exactly, they weren’t. Also they weren’t talking about theta or dg.
by: K
The point was sororities aren’t about “clicking” with sisters so stop making the original poster feel bad
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by: sohma
Honestly, I feel like a lot of rush was based on preexisting connections. I've met a few of the Alpha Chi girls in passing (plus a decent friend is now one) and we've all clicked well. I really feel like I'm missing out on something that could enhance my experience here by not partaking in Greek life. However, I just didn't overly love the sororities that were interested in me (not because of ranking or anything, but because I genuinely did not like the girls/the vibe as much). I'm completely fine with acknowledging that rush didn't work out for me as a freshman and I would never let that make me continually feel awkward if a sorority were to change its mind and let me in.
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