advice for 2023 pnms that i wish i had

i know it might seem early to post this but i was looking at GR the summer before senior year so i thought i’d catch some of the 2023 pnms before they got too deep on this site.

don’t think that actives or even people on exec following you back on insta means a thing. they can and will still cut you first round

connections aren’t always a good thing! a girl who might not know you very well or thinks you wouldn’t be a good fit might tell her sorority to pass on you

your high gpa and good resume won’t get you into a top house unless you’re a super successful pageant girl or cured cancer or something else very extraordinary.

being athletic is very important for some reason. i was choir president but it wasn’t considered as impressive as being an average high school dance team member. one girl even asked me why i wasn’t in athletics.

connections are becoming much more important in DDD and Pi Phi than ever. you probably won’t get a bid from the top 5 (except ZTA) without connections or being a legacy.

give the houses you tried to drop another chance. most of the time, they pleasantly shock girls who come back
don’t listen to what other PNMs are saying and don’t be that girl talking about what houses you got back or how you love or hate a house. stfu.

getting rec letters from recent uark alums helps a lot! still didn’t get pi phi or chi o back after first cuts with those though. however i had a rec from a recent alum of the sorority i ended up in. if that helped i wouldn’t be surprised (mid tier house)

boys don’t care what sorority you’re in. they just care that you’re hot.

bring different colored bottoms to match with the t shirts! panhellenic may release the designs for some of them but not all (you get a new shirt each day)
rankings don’t matter after recruitment and especially not in the real world

don’t SIP! If you do, you won’t be eligible for quota addition for either sorority. the system will try to make you a quota addition for your first choice. according to national panhellenic, 85-95% of PNMs get their first preference

if an active asks you if you have any questions, never say no! it comes across as disinterested. always try to think of a question

kappa, pi phi and especially chi o haze. the other sororities won’t haze you unless you ask them to.

ZTA is probably the most “attainable” top house meaning that if you fit their vibe and have great convos you have a decent chance. less connections based. even less connections based than tri delt.

recommendation letters still matter. without them, expect to be cut by chi o, kappa, pi phi, tri delt, and possibly ZTA, kd, and adpi (i didn’t have a rec for ZTA but i survived first cuts) getting rec letters from recent uark alums helps a lot! still didn’t get pi phi or chi o back after first cuts with those though. however i had a rec from a recent alum of the sorority i ended up in. if that helped i wouldn’t be surprised (mid tier house)


unfortunately, if you don’t click with the girl you talk to, you will most likely be cut. i hate that it works that way but just try to find common ground with every girl you talk to. on the flip side, you can still be cut even if you have great conversations. the chapters can’t keep every girl they like.

don’t name drop an active that you know in the chapter. They probably already know you know them and it can be awkward. They might not know the girl you bring up very well (i meet girls in my srat daily)