Alternative for building friendships
by: Curious :/There are so many unhappy, worried & heartbroken PNMs. I’m just curious does UARK have other women’s organizations where we can find & build friendships? I know everyone says “trust the process” but I’m not sure if spending $4,000 is the right decision to make when you’re not meshing with your final houses. It seems like, the 1/2 of the PNMs, that aren’t happy are just supposed to suck it up (because we “supposedly” have an “entitled” mentality) when in reality many of us PNMs just don’t have the connections needed for an opportunity to find OUR FIT (for our $4,000) and we’re being convinced to stick it out to pay for the “strong” UARK Greek system (which is MAINLY connection based). There are 2,274 PNMs for 11 houses, these numbers are crazy for a big SEC school.
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Comment#2by: You do you
by: Curious :/
TY❤️this is the best wording I’ve heard within these last few days. It’s very discouraging hearing “just stick it out” “trust the process” “there’s girls of all types in each house” etc etc when you’re down at your lowest, but what you just said was empowering💕.
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by: Bump
by: What
by: what-NM?
NM-My guess is-If many of you don't have the house on your list that you were hoping to end up with and only have one on your list that was not your top pick- get together w other girls in the dorm and figure out which house you all have left on your list in common and all pref that house. That way, you are all in the same pledge class. That's how I took it???
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by: yes-bump
#4by: :)
I really think you should give the house you get a bid from a chance, but I also understand not really finding your group. My big/little family are some of my best friends but I'm not really that close with many in my chapter. There are hundreds of student organizations you can join to meet people, people in your dorm are probably also seeking friends, ASG is a great place, there are major-specific clubs and honor societies as well. Honestly, I am much closer with the people in my major than the girls in my sorority just because I'm the only person in my PC in my major and I see those people way more than I see my sorority sisters. You will find your place, give Greek life a chance but it is okay if it turns out not to be your place!
#5by: Charlie
Hold up. I get what you’re saying, I do, and for the very top houses it is mostly connections based to get a bid from them.
I came from oos and knew absolutely nobody. I went through rush and carried the maximum number of houses allowed for each round, and received a bid to the one I wanted all summer long. No, not a “top sorority” by this site’s standard, but an upper mid one.
I’m just saying it can work if you let it and don’t get mad/hurt feelings.
There are 400 girls in each house, and you’ve talked to very few of them in person.
It’s not fair to judge the entire Greek system off of that.
by: PNm
You had a completely different experience. Even though you’re OOS you had the maximum for each round. Many PNMs have 2-3 left. Or only started with 2-3.
You had the chance to meet 8 and then 5 houses while some only get to meet 2 total.
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by: ^^
by: Houses
This post is part of the problem. There are great girls in all of the houses-the people coming on here ranking are the people living in that house! Stop the ranking! There are great girls in all of the houses!
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by: 🥴
It seems to me that girls are getting their feelings hurt without realizing that this is a competition. This isn’t some youth recreational sports team where everyone gets a trophy, or in this case a bid.
The sororities want the best girls they can get, and if tons more have a higher GPA than you do, then get over it. Should have worked harder in high school.
If the GPAs are tied, then it goes to resume. Which girl kept a 4.0 and did more service related hours?
The ones griping because you have friends in that house, and they cut you…maybe they truly aren’t your friend after all? Maybe a member’s mom reminded their daughter about that one time a certain pnm did such and such in high school?
Point is, word gets around and with so many going through rush, things can come back and bite you.
Respond with all the hate comments, I don’t care. Someone should have told y’all this ahead of time.
Recruitment IS a competition.
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#7by: Hello
I know you are upset right now, and I get it! I've been there!
But the reality of the situation is that you found this website and you BELIEVE THE NONSENSE of the ranks. This is not High School 2.0, nobody cares what house that you are in.
When you say that you don't mesh with the houses you have left, you mean that you don't mesh with the 5-10 girls in the houses that you have talked to during recruitment, there are close to 300 girls that you haven't met yet, in addition to the 180 or so pledges that will accept a bid on Saturday.
Greek life isn't for everyone, and if that is true for you, then there are a ton of other groups that you will meet people and have a great college experience! But if Greek life is something you are still interested in, you will find girls just like you in every single house! If in a house of close to 500 girls you don't find girls that you can truly become friends with, that would be shocking!
by: Preach
by: Bump
Bumping-Don't believe everything you read on this site. There are great girls in all of the houses!
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