Recruitment is stupid
by: DisillusionedI am a freshman PNM and am so over this. I count myself lucky to have 4 houses still, but I am thinking about dropping out. Many of my friends are in tears right now after being cut heavily. Sororities are supposed to empower women and lift them up, but this week instead leaves many previously strong, confident young women feeling inadequate because a bunch of 20 year old girls are judging them. don’t think I want to be Greek enough to put up with all this bull- - - -
Comment#2 by: Hi
Recruitment is hard for everyone involved. At the end of the week you can only have one house. I only had 5 houses when I rushed - and honestly it helped me focus in on those houses that invited me back. Just know that every house on campus is a great house! Unfortunately you found this site which leads people to believe that ranks matter - they don’t at all! No one on campus cares about your letters! You can find your people in any house - Greek life is about sisterhood, not ranks. Get some rest and look at things with fresh eyes and an open mind tomorrow. ❤️
by: This is so true!Aug 13, 2022 11:31:57 PM
This is true- the best thing pnms could do for themselves would be to get off this site.
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by: YessssssAug 14, 2022 2:01:11 PM
by: HelloAug 14, 2022 5:38:01 AM
#4 by: Math
Let's look at the numbers:
If there are 2200ish PNMs, that means PCs are going to be 200 girls. A certain amount of PNMs drop every year. Let's use 200 as an example. Now PCs are going to be around 175. The odds of you getting in to any house are around 9%. That percent goes down even more if 1000 PNMs all rank one particular house #1.
There is nothing wrong with you.
#6 by: What?
You have four houses left. They are full of amazing girls, just like you, that probably just didn’t have connections. Cuts will be made. You can only have one at the end.
Sorority recruitment is not mandatory. It’s not a scholarship competition. Were you aware of the process before you registered? It is set up so that all the houses get approximately the same size pledge class-which is to everyone’s benefit. There are lots of great clubs at the U of A that are open to anyone that wants to join. If you think the process is degrading then you should definitely consider joining one of those instead.
by: @what?Aug 14, 2022 10:47:14 AM
I think you had good intentions writing this but it comes off a little condescending. The recruiting process is so messed up and broken, but it’s better than how recruitment used to be. Pnms can be upset. It’s normal.
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by: Another pnmAug 14, 2022 11:05:13 AM
Um. Yes. I was aware of the process. I also realize it’s not mandatory. No need to be nasty to someone already feeling down.
Hope you’re this friendly to all the PNMs you meet today
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#7 by: Early cuts
The hard part right now is that the most popular/desired sororities had to make HUGE cuts at the beginning of the process. That’s how it works on every campus and it is hard. There are a lot is hurt feelings. Get to know the houses that invites you back…everyone ends up with just one at the end. Hang in there!
#8 by: Hang in there
Hang in there PNMs! You can only accept a bid to one house on Bid Day, so concentrate on the houses that saw something special in you! Once on campus, nobody cares what house you are in, it’s not high school and there isn’t a “popular” group. Go find your new sisters and enjoy all the things Greek life offers! You’ve got this!!!
by: DisillusionedAug 14, 2022 8:42:44 PM
Just wondering,
That is a fabulous question. I would not do anything differently for myself. I have a great resume/grades etc. Coming from a non-Greek family, I wish I had known that PNM’s truly have no say in the process until pref…and sometimes not even any choice there either. The U of A doesn’t do a good job of preparing PNM’s for this fact. I was led to believe that it was more of a mutual selection process. U of A Greek Life should be upfront about the fact that PNM’s really don’t have much say in which sorority they join, and just please STOP with “trust the process” and “you’ll end up where you were meant to be”. How do you think a girl in a lower tier chapter feels when told that? It really is a blow to their self-esteem and really meaningless words to most of us.
I don’t have any idea what could be done differently with actual recruitment with so many of us going through, but there has got to be a better way.
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by: Disillusioned Aug 14, 2022 8:55:04 PM
And I am going to continue. I have now visited all 4 houses that I have left and really enjoyed 3 of them. My visit to the “top” house was not pleasant. The girls seemed bored with me before even starting our conversations…not sure why they even invited me back. I do not get the hype about this house and would drop them if I could. I am sure they will drop me anyway and that is fine by me.
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by: ^^^Aug 15, 2022 5:17:20 PM
You will understand how absolutely crazy the process is next year as an active. I remember thinking how in the world did I make it through this. Hang in there and enjoy the process as much as you can.
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#10 by: Still many houses
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by: TrueAug 14, 2022 9:29:23 AM
It is broken. The cut number given by Panhellenic only helps the top houses. The pnm’s who have two houses left after round shouldn’t trust a process that hurts them as well
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