What are my options...

I appreciate this and really respect your advice.My only issue with this, is if I give it a chance (and don't go with my gut) and still not like it, I cant do anything for a year.

I know that this process can be so hard and so stressful. Just know that you’re doing everything right and you’ve done everything you can. I know a year without a sorority wouldn’t be what you expected but I wasn’t in a sorority my freshman year and I made a lot of friends in my dorm and I don’t regret it for a second. In my opinion you should continue to be open minded and accept a bid regardless of the house. If you don’t like it and end up resigning you’ll have a year to meet people in all of the houses on campus and have connections that can help you get into one you want. Just another piece of advice but no matter what anyone tells you it’s ultimately up to what you want to do and you shouldn’t be ashamed of what you decide to do.

I keep hearing this, but this is a two way street. I wouldn't take a job just because it's offered to me or date a boy just because they like me...I have to want to date them too. If i put both down and get in #2 (AND end up still not liking it)...I'm not able to do anything for a year.

You’re right you, you don’t have to take a bid just because it’s been offered to you but if you have even the slightest bit of happened or connection to the house you get on your bid card give it a chance. You may find your place now rather than later if you do. Don’t worry let the anxiety of the process get to you. Be excited that tomorrow you could be running home to where your new best friends are waiting for you if you give them the chance.

Thank you. I haven't ruled them out and will give them a fair shot...but I have to follow my heart and it's a 2 way street. I also get a choice in what sorority I want to belong, and if nothing changes after my party today...I'm not just going to go to a house to go...I want it to be somewhere I'm excited about and LOVE.

I completely respect that. If you go in today with fresh eyes and still aren’t feeling it, then it might be the best option for you. Just remember you’re only getting the opportunity to talk to a handful of the girls from that house. There are all types of girls in every house. Good luck ❤️

Why would you want to be part of a sisterhood that rejected you?

They didn't reject me. I had to make cuts too...sometimes based on who had the best video. Pretty hard to base a whole house off who hired the best videographer?

Of all years this year may be the one I would suicide bid. I wouldn’t pay all that money to not do anything and not be happy with my choice. It’s a tough call though because sophomore recruitment is very difficult. Yes you would need to be in sisterhood round to get a cob. Those will go to goes that just barely didn’t make the cut off. Good luck!

I am grateful to have 2 options, but I also get a say in where I choose to go. It is not a one way street. I will be paying for the sorority on my own and it's only worth it to me, if I get to go somewhere I really LOVE.

girl, you're not the only one, there girls who have one house and are not completely in love yet they gave a shot. If you don't give a house a 2nd chance, you can drop it before fees come. boohoo to you, poor me!

YES this info is correct! If you suicide bid (only put one house down) and they DONT offer you a bid, you are not allowed to rush or COB for a full year (so next fall recruitment). Suicide biding is just a bad choice all around. Like everyone in the comments says, you should write both and if you get the one you didn’t want, you’re allowed to drop and would be able to do COB this year

My gamma chi gave me conflicting info to what you are saying. 1st she said "snap bids" arent a thing at Arkansas. She also said if i put 2 houses down, and dont want my 2nd choice that i cant rush for a year because im bound to the 2 options i choose depending on who chooses me. i also am no longer able to talk to her...she told me that this AM, so im really lost. i read the handbook and it says, "any PNM who dropped out of or was released in recruitment process before signing an MRABA or was not mathed with a chpater in the bid matching process is eligible to participate in COB". If i choose 2 options and regret it. Im stuck.

Whoa, you’re cut off from your gamma chi?? Why? When do you sign your bid card?

on our 7am zoom she said she can no longer talk to us. i am getting ready to do 2 back to back parties and dont feel like there's anyone to ask advice from. not that she's really been that helpful along the way. unfortunately i think zoom has made everything very impersonal. it's really sad this year and i'm thinking this may not be for me.

I’m so sorry, I’m not doing recruitment this year and since it’s all new, that just shocked me that you can’t talk to your gamma chi now.

Good luck at your parties! Just trust your gut. I promise you that you will find girls just like you in any house!!

She is correct....you can't talk to your Gamma chis anymore. Strict silence. I thought there was someone else you could talk to about this if you still had questions, b/c it is so confusing. I had a friend who only got 1 house for pref and did not want it but she was upset and confused and signed her Mraba and knew right away that she didn't want a bid to that house after she went to bid day but it was too late and then she had to wait for a whole year to rush again. Make sure you know your choices and the consequences before you commit!