How to deal with getting cut from houses?

More than half of you will not get a bid to a top five house. You just deal with it and realize ranks ONLY matter during recruitment. All houses have similar functions, events ect.. All houses ( and non greek members ) go to frat parties ( although prob not this fall). All have houses will have some girls similar to you and it’s up to you to find your people. There are girls in top houses not happy and found it difficult to get into a clique. That can happen in any house though. If you think other people here at uark think more highly of you because your in a top house house your wrong. We all know it’s mostly about connections and GREAT girls end up in all houses. You will get over your disappointment I promise.

Hi, NOT a troll here! Personally I didn’t know much about recruitment so like everyone else I really wanted Kappa & Chi O coming in. After I was cut the first round (like most) I was really bummed especially since I felt like I had a good resume, looks, and 4.0, but I did have one top 5 house left so I set my sights on them! I was convinced I would rush them but was unfortunately not invited back for pref. On pref I had a house that I had a few friends in and I had a house that I hadn’t even thought about all week. Oddly enough, it rained on my pref and I got stuck at the house of my “bottom” choice for like 5 hours. While I was there I realized I would love to call this place home, so I pledged that chapter! I had a really difficult first year making friends, but my big really helped. During my sophomore year I joined a few committees that I was interested in and made a lot of friends that way! I LOVE my chapter now and I’m so glad things worked out the way they did! I know “trust the process” is an annoying phrase, but it really is true!❤️

A bunch of us are talking and think we would fit better in a mid-lower house. They seem more genuine and down to earth.

Going into recruitment, I had no friends friends or in house connections at all. I was cut from 7 houses first round, 3.7 high school GPA. And I will be completely honest, I was devastated. It totally sucks knowing that 7 groups of strong and beautiful women that I was enamored with didn’t want me to be a part of what made them special. After philanthropy, another house I fell in love with cut me as well and I was wrecked. I was a moment away from just quitting the process all together. But I decided that I was going to give my house I ended up preffing a shot and I found a community of amazing, beautiful women who are my biggest support system with all the things I do on campus. My best friends and best memories of college come from my sorority. You will find your support system of amazing girls NO MATTER which house you join. So as cheesy as it sounds, do trust the process even if it is terrible at the moment. I promise you won’t regret it no matter where you end up ❤️

There is a very long thread on Greekchat.com about women who got into their second choice and loved it.

Going in I had my heart stuck on being a tri delt or pi phi, only problem was that my sister was in a chapter on campus already. I really wanted to find my own house that liked me for me, and not because my sister was already in it. I had really great conversations with all the houses, but ultimately got cut by 8 houses. I was cut by pi phi and tri delt in the mix. I was left with one house I really did not see myself in, one house I felt like I was going to be forced into and one I really liked going into philanthropy round. After philanthropy round, I started to really love the chapter my sister was in and I fell in love with the one I “liked” before. With my luck I got cut by the one I fell in love with and then had two houses remaining. At this point I knew I was going to bid the sorority my sister was in, because I really didn’t see myself in the other sorority. I cried that night because I wanted to be my own person and not predecessor. This wasn’t the only time I cried lol... I cried almost every night. I remember getting a call from my gamma chi one morning telling me not to come into the meeting or get dressed because I had no parties that day. Same thing happened the next day... and it wasn’t until the second day of philanthropy that I was allowed to come back in. It left me a lot of time to think about “what was wrong with me”. I had 200+ community service, 3.9 gpa, decent ACT, leaders of multiple clubs and teams etc. I knew when I opened that card on bid day it was going to be my sisters sorority, and it was. It took me about a month to “get over myself” and really get engulfed within it all. I slowly started to realize that I actually really, really REALLY loved where I was at. It took me joining a few committees, going to dedication meetings etc. to realize that all sororities are really similar and that I couldn’t be that hard on myself. While I still am referred to “[insert sisters name here] sister” sometimes and it’s annoying, I have found my own people and have been trying to build my own name. I’ve had so much fun with where I’m at, and while recruitment for me was kinda boo boo and scary, it all worked out in the end.

Ps. Being a legacy stinks😂

I know a zeta who has a sister in kappa

I came into recruitment with some small connections to a few houses and was cut from kappa and chi o first round (no surprise there). But fell in love with a top house here without connections and they kept me throughout the whole week, even on pref. On bid day I expected to see their name on my card, but it was another house (that I still liked, but didn't have the same connection with), even though I preffed my first choice - obviously. so yeah that also happens in recruitment - not often, but it definitely does.
I was super hurt about it and didn't get over it for a long time, but I'm happy with the house I ended up with, but honestly I think I'd be happy with my first choice too.

This is getting off topic but reading about legacies getting cut made me think of a girl we cut last year because we assumed she was going her legacy house which is rated slightly above us. She did end up pledging them but I have talked to her many times since and she has told me she was so sad and really wanted us. So pnm’s if your a legacy for a top house and you want a different house for example ... kappa leg but want pi phi (Or whoever ) make it be known you like that house. And I mean really KNOWN not cordial like you should be to all houses.

What got me through was thinking about how I shouldn’t want to be apart of a house that doesn’t want me. If they don’t think I fit there why should I want to force myself to be somebody they want? There’s nothing I could do what was done happened and don’t get me wrong the feeling SUCKED. But I tried not to let it take over my thoughts or get me down because I still was lucky to have so many great houses left. You’re gonna have doubts about yourself but it’s NOT YOU. Don’t let it get to your head keep being yourself and you will find your home. Trust me I did too.