did this happen to you?

I can tell you right now that same scenario happened to me and other girls that I know. I was set on a house who told me on pref night that they were so excited to see me on bid day. We cried together and I felt like I was meant for that house.

Bid day I ended up with my second choice that I did not have a great connection with. I was heartbroken. It was so difficult to fake the enthusiasm and act happy all morning when I was so exhausted and disappointed. Seeing all the girls who got my first choice house on bid day made me sick to my stomach. I went back to my dorm and cried for hours.

Not going to lie, I still wonder what it would be like if I had gotten my first choice, but I ended up meeting girls in the house I’m in now that will be my forever friends. Sounds silly I know, but you will find those people.

But I don’t believe everything happens for a reason and that you don’t always end up where you’re supposed to be. I think the system is made to where everyone gets a bid and not necessarily their first choice at all. Just be aware this could happen and play your cards carefully. Don’t get your hopes up and make the best of what you get

I would say 85% of the time you will get the house you pref first so don’t stress about it too much. Be open and go with the flow! Some recruitment years are different from others and it just depends how high you are on their lists and what their retention rate is, etc.

hey girly, so I had a bid day kind of like the one you fear. I had two houses on pref and one I really liked (they also bid promised me) and one I also really liked just not as much. I had my mind set on the house that bid promised me (fyi bid promising is NOT allowed and should not happen to you, they really cracked down on it). So when I opened my bid day card on bid day, I got the other house, not the one I really wanted. I was sad, not going to lie. I had tears in my eyes and I really just wanted to be alone because I really had my heart set on the house that bid promised. But when I met my bid day buddy from my new house, it turned it all around for me. She was so energetic and couldnt wait to show me around and get to know me and my family who was at bid day better. Obviously, I was still a bit upset that i didn't get the one I really wanted, sometimes it just happens that way. But after experiencing bid day with my bid day buddy, I never looked back. I love the house I am in, all of the best friends I've ever had I've made through this house and I've grown so much as a person through it. Thank goodness I didn't get a bid from the other house, bc I love where I'm at now and i wouldn't change it for the world. In short, trust the system!! I can't stress that enough. If a house doesn't want you, that's fine! Another house also filled with amazing girls will :) hope this helps your nerves a little!!