friends between ranks

You are right this is a dumb and shallow question but I will answer

1. Were you really friends if they won’t talk to you based on what sorority you joined?

2. Like lots of high school friends that go away to college together- your interest change and you grow apart. This has nothing to do with what sorority you are in.

3. In college, especially your first year you are trying to fit everything in - classes, homework, football games, sorority, volunteer, etc. and there isn’t enough time for everything you want to do or to spend time with everyone you want to. So like everything else it is what you put in is what you get out

So if that friendship is important to you and you are important to them the friendship will survive. It has nothing to do with the letters on your shirt or how others perceive them

My friend is a legacy to a top house and I have no connections at all. I know college is totally different and you meet new people but I’m scared of not getting in a “top” house if that’s where my friends are getting in.

Gotta be honest here. If you were really good friends before then maybe. But I don’t know any top houses that socialize with bottom houses. I heard one top house was told not to associate or befriend their new next door neighbors due to their bad rep.

Kappa and ChiO almost exclusively socialize with each other and PiPhi. Maybe Zeta but not all. PiPhi is a little more inclusive. Zeta associates with the upper tiers and maybe some TriDelt or KD. Kappas don’t associate with PhiMu but it’s fake news to say they were told not to.

As a freshman, I think some girls care. Really depends on WHO though. I do know of an AChiO who’s Kappa roommate was best friends with her before rush and now the Kappa girl barely talks to her. This could just be because she’s busy and they’ve just drifted away so I’m in no way blaming the Kappa girl!! Life happens. I’m in a middle tier sorority and have a lot of friends in several “top tier” and “bottom tier” houses. If you’re hanging with the right type of people to begin with, I promise they won’t care what house you’re in.

I'm in dg and one of my good friends is in Chi O

It honestly depends on the person. Some people are shallow and won’t talk to you and others no so much. I have a friend that’s in a top house and I’m not. We have all our classes together so we have become good friends (didn’t know her before). We invite each other to different things and just don’t talk about what sororities we are in because it ultimately doesn’t matter. If someone won’t be friends with you because of the chapter you are in they aren’t worth being your friend anyway.

Do you really not want to grow and change in your college years?
Bc that is what college is about. Friendships shift- even after accepting a bid. Regardless of the house. If you are that fearful- perhaps you are not as close to this friend as you think. Nothing good comes out of insecurity.
Wishing the best for you.