Help.Potential New Member, not sure how this works.
by: CluelessThere's a Sigma Kappa girl in one of my classes. We sat together and had great convos. She seems nice. We were talking about recruitment and she said I would totally fit in with her chapter and that I should pledge Sigma Kappa. She made it sound super cool and like what I would fit in with them and have fun and lifelong sisterhood and stuff. She said if I wanted, she could make sure I get a bid and that way I don't have so much pressure on me during recruitment. So what happens now? Do I still go to all the other stuff? In the heat of the moment I agreed and she like shook my hand and told me welcome to my new home but what if I still want to explore other chapters? I guess I was kinda caught off guard and we seemed to click and it was exciting in the moment but I don't know if I just majorly screwed up. If I am still able to explore other chapters, is that going to get them mad and cause me to get no bids at all. I am so confused and have no clue what just happened.
Comment#2 by: oh please
great advice. but let’s be real. there hasn’t been this much discussion about ANY chapter in years. you’ve already made your dislike clear. your pattern is obvious: you start a thread and you and your couple of friends are going to do your troll thing and downvote this comment and upvote your own. with a ridiculous amount of activity. the desire to destroy is borderline pathological and you’re not fooling anyone! please stop.
by: CluelessAug 24, 2021 7:34:13 PM
Yeah, so now that I clicked around, I see some of that. But no, I'm seriously in this situation and seriously freaking. I shouldn't have said the name and looked for a way to go back and edit but I can't find one. This is not my day at all. I'm seriously a hot mess from this all. As far as the other drama, I don't know and actually don't even care. I have to worry about my own mess. But I get where you're coming from.
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by: CluelessAug 24, 2021 7:40:55 PM
Thanks. I am completely kicking myself now for saying the name of the sorority. I had no idea there was this drama here. I legit messaged a friend freaking out and she didn't know the answer and she said try asking here. And now I see I kinda walked into a mess already happening which I am not even sure what is about. I don't want to get anyone in trouble and the whole thing could've been me just misunderstanding. And I don't want anyone upset with me. I am just trying to understand everything. It all feels overwhelming.
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by: Clueless Aug 24, 2021 7:58:04 PM
Thank you so much! Seriously everything you said helps. I was really thinking someone would say that yeah I basically screwed myself over. I just needed some kind of input from someone who gets this whole process. Sounds like good advice to get off here. The little bit I saw makes my head hurt. Thank you again. I really appreciate your input a whole lot!
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#5 by: Don't be extra
Maybe try giving someone the benefit of the doubt. If we are wrong, okay then. But if you beat up on this person and you are wrong, you potentially just chased off someone that could be in any of our chapters. Try being nice and not so straight mean. Maybe you are wrong and that would suck to do that to someone just trying to figure stuff out. Don't know about you but when I rushed, it was a lot to take in. And it was hard sitting next to girls in classes or out and figuring out what to say or not say.
by: KapsAug 24, 2021 9:39:31 PM
Like like like this. People need to give some grace. Comments putting down someone asking for help perpetuates the belief about us being mean girls. Rise above.
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by: Turtle loveAug 24, 2021 10:40:37 PM
by: Not so sureAug 27, 2021 3:24:17 PM
I don't think it is. I know a couple pnms this happened to (but by a different house).
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by: LolzAug 28, 2021 10:27:42 PM
What rock do you live under?? Dirty rushing happens all the time by many chapters! Oh wait, I get it now. You must be a sk. Hey girl hey!
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by: Anchors awayAug 28, 2021 10:33:04 PM
Yep, sigma kappa aside, dirty rushing is not unusual. I've watched it go down. Sucks but true.
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by: CluelessAug 24, 2021 7:15:52 PM
Thanks. I am just nervous to get in trouble cause I think I broke the rules about having that conversation and all. I mean, I guess I could just move forward with whatever she tells me to do next (no clue what that would be) but I also want to at least know if they are the best match for me. But I also don't want to get in trouble. I'm stressing and feel super awkward no matter what I do next. This was not what I pictured. 😥
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