tips for making preference tomorrow???? im so scared

Don’t think of any questions bc the girl that is prefing you already has the questions she wants to ask to get deeper. I would think of stories of a time sisterhood has helped you before, stories of when you wished you had sisterhood, and in general impactful stories that have shaped you to be the person you are today. It can be a happy, funny, sad, etc story. This day is lead by the sister so dw about much if anything. Good Luck

During pref you should be paired up with someone you’ve talked to before so the surface level convos of something like “where did you go to school” shouldn’t happen.

Some questions that i’ve asked pnms before are “How do you hope the sisterhood in this sorority will support you in hardships?” Usually I share a story abt how the sisterhood has helped me and then leave it open to the pnm to either share her own story if she’s comfortable or not. You might also be asked things like “what has stood out to you the most in this sorority”.

Each sorority is different and some may be lead by the active while some may be just like sisterhood round basically. So I would prepare a question like “Did you immediately feel at home on bid day or did it take a couple weeks to realize this is your home?”, “What makes you proud to be a member of your sorority?”, “what kind of things do you do with your sisters outside of sorority events”, “What is your favorite memory in the sorority”, etc.

this is also a really good time to ask abt leadership positions and if they have any opportunities for new members to get involved. (sororities like to recruit girls that like to be involved and will be involved in their sorority)

If a recruiter ask you “how are you feeling abt the sorority? Can you see yourself here?” and you really do see yourself at that sorority you better tell them. “I love this house, I feel so at home here, I can see myself on bid day here, I’ve had such a great experience, I love xyz abt you’re sorority and that really resonates with me bc…”, etc”. In general you should show that you want to be a part of their sisterhood. I wouldn’t mention that you like another house or are torn.

Don’t mention partying, drinking, boys, don’t mention that your mom is forcing you to rush, don’t mention that you are undecided, etc.

Also single bidding won’t hurt your chances with the sorority you do want. If you really don’t see yourself in the other sorority DONT PUT IT.