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I agree.

I'm the first in my family to even go to college. I had zero recs and got in to what people on here would call a middle house.

If you went to high school, you know some sorority alumnae. If you're too lazy to ask around, that's your decision. Just don't blame the sororities for having their rules and traditions. If you think they're so stupid and antiquated, you probably wouldn't like sorority life either.

THIS! Get recs or stop complaining.

I was the one that posted I was the first in my family to go to college, and this reply is intended for the ones that responded to me.


You jerks are the only reason I wouldn't like a sorority. I never said recs were dumb, or useless. All I said was that I got into a decent sorority without one. You guys need to calm down and I sincerely hope I am not in your house because I would never want to be associated with girls who have such a closed mind. Yeah, recs can be very helpful. But you want to know what is even MORE accurate nowadays? Is looking at someone's social media yourself. That won't be some washed out version of the girl.

If you didn't want to play by the rules, you didn't have to apply for recruitment. No one made you. But if you did want to be in a sorority you had to know that there were rules...

Too many sororities are missing out on fantastic girls because of the stupid rec letter thing-- which is not even supposed to be required.

I don't know who told you that recs were not "supposed to be required." The sororities themselves decide whether or not to require recs (I think all of them do.) No one can tell sororities that they're not supposed to require recs as far as I know.

As for social media, people tell you to "clean up" your social media before you sign up for recruitment. Most girls I've looked at have just a few family pictures and their senior pictures on social media. If you have something disgusting, you can be dropped, but few girls do.

I'd suggest that you calm down about recs. It sounds like a rec was gotten for you and so you didn't need to put yourself out. My house will ask an alum for a rec if we want a girl and don't have one. Yes girls without recs get cut, but so do girls with low grades, girls with too avant garde looks, girls with bad reputations from their hometown, etc. Some of those are bound to actually be fantastic but they get cut. That's okay. Greek life isn't for everyone, fantastic or not.

I would NEVER categorize "not having recs" as a disqualification on the same level as "low grades," "too avant garde looks," or "bad reputations from their hometown."

Not having a rec is not an automatic disqualification like a bad reputation. But if there are two similar girls and we don't know either, we'll keep the one with the rec and release the one without. Ya can't keep everyone...

There is definitely a difference between "I can't recommend this girl because I don't know her" and I am giving her a NO Rec because she has a questionable reputation, etc. a NO Rec (in my house) is an automatic cut. If I don't personally know a PNM but I have reason to believe she is well-rounded, good grades and activities, I will recommend her but not highly recommend. I have written many recommendations. Others might disagree, but this is how I do it. My house just requires a recommendation to extend a bid.

What you girls need to understand is that if your house requires a rec (and this girl may have pledged one), to extend a bid then one was found for her. She may think she didn't have one, but she did. A lot goes on"behind the scenes" before and during recruitment to seek out Recs for these PNM.