rec letter

Thank you!

Yes. Have your mom post on fb. Mine did for a couple of houses that I didn't have and it was amazing. The alums that responded were ones I knew but just didn't know they were in those sororities. Also, ask your friends who they got for those houses. You may have a friend whose aunt is in a house that you need. Another thing to do is to ask the alums that have written recs for you if they know anybody in the houses you don't have. Usually they'll have some good suggestions. Finally, all your teachers went to college. Ask any teacher you're close to if she knows any sorority women that can help you.

Some of the houses are more selective and need a way to cut a lot of girls right at the beginning. In my house it's a way to differentiate those that made the effort and those that didn't.

It also depends on how strict hour nationals is about getting recs.

Oops-- that should say "not" getting a rec.

Didn't get in??

Haha! No in fact I cut them after house tour. But my friend did pledge there and quit. So I heard lots of stories!! Trust me--I pledged a much better house with girls who actually care!!

PiPhis are notoriously jealous fiends and are always picking on GPB or someone.

Actually, I will tell you that is a great girl. Super sweet and rush by most of the top houses. Please don't try to smear her name for the sake of trying to lie about what everyone knows about GPhi. She was devasted when she quit but said she just couldn't stand the house anymore. I have known this girl for a long time and really want us to be in the same house. She chose GPhi because she knew a couple of girls and didn't know anyone in the house I chose. (A top house). When my mom talked to her mom she simply said "she pledged the wrong house and she knows that now".

I think I know who the girl is too, if I'm right, the girl is a great girl and she's super sweet!! But definitely would've been a better fit in another house, I was always a little confused that she went Gphi because she reminded me of a lot of girls I knew in a different house. Just because she would've fit better in another house doesn't mean Gphi is bad or the girl is bad, she just made the mistake of choosing her house because of friends she knew previously. If a PNM is reading this, trust the system!! It works!! I went in wanting a certain house and ended up with them on pref, and as much as I loved them I ended up choosing a house I felt more comfortable with. Choose a house based on how you feel, not previous ideas you had before rushing!!

I come from the same small town in Oklahoma that had a girl quit GPhi but this was 3 or 4 years ago so I doubt if it is who you at taking about. Family friends from way back. Her experience may have been different. She had a great rush and was leaning towards a different house until pref night. She equated belonging to a house with emotion and so basically picked the house that made her cry the most. BIG MISTAKE!! The advise she gave me was to look at how the girls interact with their sisters. Eye opening. I cut GPhi after round 2. Very fake sisterhood. That's why she quit!!

Sisterhoods change a lot throughout the years... If it was 3 or 4 years ago all of the girls/ almost all of the girls have graduated? Why are you judging a house off of girls that aren't even there anymore?

Haha! That's not what I'm saying at all. I'm not judging the house based on her experience but on mine last year. I was passing on her advise--don't pledge a house based on emotion and how much you cry on pref night--make sure you look at the actual sisterhood in the house. When I followed her advice I didn't see that strong of a sisterhood.