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by: lostOk, so I got a bid, it was not my 1st choice not even my 10th choice, and do not really feel like I fit into this particular sorority. Had great conversations with many sororities that dropped me yet I felt connected to them. The sorority that gave me a bid, was one where I never connected. Not sure what went wrong. Is it better to stick it out where I am uncertain or to try again next year? Will other sororities even give someone a chance that they dropped this year?
#1by: stick it out!
Give it a shot! Unfortunately you probably won't ever know what exactly went "wrong" or why sororities you thought you connected with didn't end up giving you a bid. BUT what you do know is that the sorority you got a bid to wanted you, and sees something in you that made them see you as a potential sister. Try out your new member period and give it your best effort, and if you really don't connect, you can always drop out before initiation.
Commentby: MR
I agree with @stick it out!
However I will give you my observation that Theta and ASA are 2 sororities I have seen that take girls as sophomores who I KNOW they dropped as freshmen. Not that that means anything really except to answer your question that, yes some sororities take some girls who got bids elsewhere and then re-rush.
And I know you're wondering "what went wrong", but I'll tell you what went right.....the sorority you got a bid to saw potential in you. Potential to be a friend, a leader, a life long member of their sorority. That shouldn't be taken lightly considering all the chapters made Quota this year. I'd stick it out for a while and get to know your pledge class. You may find some of your best friends for life and it'd be terrible for you to miss out on.
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#2by: same
by: You'll be surprised
Believe me, stick it out!! I rushed and got my last choice throughout rush on bid day because they had a reputation for being "too try hard", but I really involved myself in the chapter (First to text other girls to hang out, volunteered for a lot of stuff) and now I have a leadership position and th most amazing girl friends I could ever have hoped for. You know what that "try hard" rep means to me now? It means we put our all into what we do and we don't care who sees it!
It's a two way street though. You have to put some effort in to get what you want out of it. That's my opinion 😀
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#3by: found
While I don't believe any chapter here has a 'once cut always cut' policy, the majority of girls who rerush will end up with the same chapters asking them back. Think honestly about things you can do to improve yourself, (joining clubs and taking on leadership positions, boosting your GPA, etc.) and think honestly how you presented yourself during rush. If you think that you have a lot of wiggle room in these areas, maybe give rush another try.
BUT! Also give yourself a couple of weeks before dropping. You probably have months until initiation, and you haven't met many people at all yet. Go out with other new members and have fun, talk to older sisters about how your feeling over froyo (because there is probably one who has been in your same place), attend everything you can, and then in xyz weeks if you still are thinking that you aren't in the right place, then go ahead and rerush.
by: lost
Can you explain what is "wiggle room" here. My GPA is fine, people tell me I am attractive, and I believe I am a friendly open minded person. How do you wiggle room this? Any advice as to "why" these sororities drop someone who appears to be within their normal qualifications and connects with the girls during rush? I am lost about the inner workings of this process. I have tried to keep an open mind, and I am giving the sorority a shot that offered me a bid, but not sure if I will be happy in the end, so I might be between a rock and knife here. If I was not open minded, I would have dropped out already.
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#4by: well
@lost i can tell you why you got dropped by the other sororities. They didn't see you as one of their sisters. And that's that.
But the chapter who extended you a bid DOES see you as being a part of their chapter and that means something. That's why everyone is pushing you to give the new member process a chance.
If you're checking all these boxes for the supposed "qualifications" for these sororities (and let's be honest, you have no idea what their actual qualifications are outside of GPA) and it still didn't happen for you, then what are you going to be able to change about yourself if yo do decide to re-rush? and should you have to change to be accepted by these chapters?
A chapter likes you just the way you are and wants you to join their sisterhood. Take that to heart.
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by: lost
But if I chose not to stay at the sorority who gave me a bid, will any other sorority even give me a chance next year? If they dropped me this year, would they even give me a second thought next year? I am trying to be open minded, and trying to decide what is best in this situation here given the circumstances.
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